Wing Girls

So, something interesting happened the other day. I was invited
to be on the panel of a “roast” of my friend, ostensibly to
“honor” him on his 30th Birthday,

Of course, I had to step up to the challenge.

If you’ve seen these roasts of various celebs on TV, you know
it’s a free-for-all where everybody involved gets slammed. I got
off pretty clean; some choice digs:

“I hear Jeff is a ‘professional pick up artist.’ Back in New
York, we just call them garbage men.”

“Jeff used to look like k.d. lang. He’s changed things a bit;
now he looks like Richard Grieco f**d Corey Haim in the mouth.”

Okay, that second one stung a little. Lemme put some ice on it,
and while we’re waiting, I’ll do a little Q&A action for you…

*** QUESTION ***

Hi Jeffy,

Thanks for your newsletter. I think it is a great resource. I
plan to attend a bootcamp as soon as I save up enough money.

I usually have little problems getting dates and making out with
girls during the dates. However, I often have trouble getting
into a girl’s apartment after the date.

The girl usually tells me that she is tired or that she does not
know me well enough.

If I call her a few days later, the girl is willing to go for a
walk or go out to a club, however she says that she is “too
tired” or to watch a movie or have dinner at her place.

Do you have any ideas on how I should handle this?

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

Greg

>>>>>> >>>>>> MY REPLY:

It sounds to me like you’re running a good “attract game” but
you’re coming up short when it comes to building trust and
comfort.

You’re getting a certain level of success, but now it’s time to
take things even further.

See, getting good at this game is a process.

You’re at the level where you can approach, open, and generate
attraction.

BUT, what you must realize is that attraction is merely INTEREST.
It’s up to you to parlay that into something more.

You’re getting her interested, and that’s good. But if you want
to take things further and get to the endgame consistently, you
have to learn now to build trust and comfort.

Once you do this, you can begin to qualify the girl, and build
a true connection and rapport. At this point, you have both
attraction and trust, and she’ll be practically begging you to
check out her apartment.

Remember, when building rapport, the conversational ratio gears
down to 50/50. Stop talking so much about yourself and start to
listen. This is the time to ask all the mundane “get to know you”
questions that would get you blown out in the initial stages.

One cute little trick I can give you is to do a false time
constraint when you raise the idea of going back to her place:

“What’s your house like? Oh it sounds awesome, I gotta see this.
I can only stay fifteen minutes, though.”

Nice.

In any case, don’t forget to stay assertive in your interactions.
Don’t hem and haw about, be forceful and confident at all times,
whether you’re approaching or pitching for a meet-up, whatever.

Nobody’s going to hand you success… you have to take it.

Keep it fun and cool, but at the same time, BE RELENTLESS.

Hope that helps. Next caller.

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Hey guys,

Do you ever invite wing GIRLS along to your
conferences?? ;)

Since incorporating the tips you provide in your
newsletters, I’ve been able to increase the quality of
men I attract from sevens and eights to NINES and
TENS! You guys are awesome!

Thanks to Jlaix and the gang, I’ve dated smoking hot
lawyers and architects, a firefighter who models,
ripped little hotties 10-15 years younger than me, and
even a former NBA player!

And I’m no bombshell. I’m 5′1″ and in my 30s! Umm,
make that late 30s…. :o

But with your help, I’ve learned how to recognize
chodes on sight, identify the men who’ve got game and
focus on those, improve my own cocky-funny, and render
guys who might otherwise be dating supermodels
completely helpless! It’s soooooo fun. :D

Sure, my game’s not perfect and I don’t always
succeed, but I’m no longer afraid of hitting up the
hottest guy in the room. And my friends are in awe
whenever I show up with a new Adonis on my arm. Life
is good!

Anyway, would love to meet you guys and say thanks;
maybe even offer a few testimonials or a girl’s
perspective to your recruits. Plus I know lots of
great places around town to go out!

Hope you have a blast in Portland regardless and keep
up the good work!

Kisses,

Pretzel

>>>>>> >>>>>> MY REPLY:

Wow. This just goes to show that the underlying concepts
behind our system are universally applicable to the human
social experience.

Have you considered taking one of our live programs
yet?

The RSD Bootcamp is an individualized program that’s customized
to your particular needs. We’ll give you a plan of action from
approach to the bedroom, and provide a fun, positive
introduction to the game.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: you need to get this
area of your life handled NOW, while you still have time.
Because that’s the one commodity money CAN’T buy.

Learn more about our Bootcamps by visiting here:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/n/bootcamps.asp

Anyways, take care Pretzel, You carb-filled treat, you.

And shall we take our next caller please, WELCOME to the RSD
newsletter:

*** QUESTION ***

I’m not sure if you answer questions or not, but I had a
question that was festering in my mind from the past weekend.

The background of the story is I went clubbing with a friend
who has some skills as well. We went to work once we got there.

What I found is once you get 6 or 7 girls sitting with you at a
table or at the bar engaging you (we approached 3 groups and
merged together by talking eachother up and so forth).

The problem I noticed is once you get a group of girls, having fun
with them and so forth, you get the floaters or the hovering
guys moving in on our group.

At first I was frustrated but I tried doing various things to
blow them out on their approaches, like engaging them, making
them talk about boring stuff but making it look like I was just
being friendly, to singing silly songs about how their trying
to score and so forth.

But most of the time with the hovering losers, they would creep
the girls out and the girls would say they were going back
dancing. Then we’d be stuck with the losers at our table.

So they’d hang around I guess waiting for us to bring girls
back. Once they got bored they’d leave. We’d approach more
girls and get some new girls back, and teh cloud of losers
would return.

Basically, it got me thinking what would the pros do in
situations like that. If there were any tactics or even
simple body positioning that would prevent or defuse this.

I tried a few like moving the group to various parts of the
club, quiet areas etc. or sitting arrangements where it
appeared they were gaming me n so forth but the cloud followed.

Keep up the good work

Tony, London Ontario

>>>>>> >>>>>> MY REPLY:

Whoa, what’s this? You’re “not sure if I answer questions or
not?” ARE YOU NEW HERE?

Well, yeah, I’ve been known to answer a question or two in my
time, so let’s have a crack at it.

First off, it sounds like you’re doing pretty well for yourself
as far as your game is concerned, so congratulations for that.
The ability to merge groups together like that demonstrates a
deep cognitive understanding of how social interaction works.

You are cool!

But yeah, these hoverchodes can be quite disconcerting, I know.

They linger and act all weird, like human vultures in a chode
fog. They’re watching you get the girls into state, and are
hoping you’ll leave so they can… what? Get blown off?

YOU know that’s what’ll happen, and *I* know that’s what’ll
happen, but these hoverchodes JUST DON’T GET IT.

So, what’s a player to do?

It all comes down to FRAME CONTROL. The best tactic is to
just IGNORE these guys and cut them out of your reality
completely. By extension, this will make the girl unaware of
their presence, because she’s in your frame.

Those people are just chodes who can only DREAM of doing what
you’re doing. IGNORE THEM.

This goes back to having a strong reality, and it’s something
I discussed in a recent newsletter. I called it having a “point
of attention,” and let’s just recap that right here:

Whenever you’re in set, you have to have a certain point on
which you focus your attention. Usually, it’s the girl.

The most important thing to remember is that you must never
waver from your point of attention, that it must not drift
off to some area outside of the set. That means you don’t pay
attention to the other guys lingering off to the left, you
don’t pay attention to other people making comments about the
pickup, etc.

You have to ENGAGE your target with HYPER FOCUS, and ignore all
distractions. You’ll notice that when this happens, the whole
club seems to disappear… it’s just YOU and HER in your own
little magical bubble of desire.

This means not not being concerned with anything outside
of your set. It means maintaining a strong frame and a strong
reality.

I’ve heard this described as “solitude in public.”

If your attention slips, you must collect it again and
redirect it as soon as possible to one single point or object.

Remember that? Good.

So give it a whirl, and see for yourself how effective this
can be.

Have fun, and thanks for writing.

Before I conclude, let me say a couple words about our fearless
commander, Tyler.

Tyler’s known the world over as one of the foremost
academic authorities in the area of social dynamics, and over
the course of the past few years, he’s spent THOUSANDS upon
THOUSANDS of hours in the field, seeing how his theories
stack up against REALITY.

As a result, you’re not going to find anyone with a more
complete understanding of the social matrix and how it
functions.

Not anywhere.

Now, Tyler’s teamed up with the rest of the RSD Executive Coaches
to present easy-to-understand two day seminar that tells you
POINT-BLANK how to meet, attract and close the deal with any
attractive woman you see, any time, anywhere.

It’s called the SuperConference.

We’re the real deal, player. To learn more about what the
Superconference covers and when it’s coming to your city,
visit here:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/n/seminars.asp

And, if you want to check out one of our best Superconferences
recorded for you so you can watch it at home, then visit:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/foundations.asp

Oh, you didn’t think I was gonna end this without letting you
in on MY bit for the roast, did you?

Of course not

So, I’m finally introduced to the opening strains of “Eye of
the Tiger,” and deliver a blistering 7 minutes of terror.
Highlights:

“Greg Armstrong? More like Greg DickSmall.”

“I don’t know Greg’s sister very well, but I’ve always liked
her. The first time I met her I thought to myself, ‘Wow, this
dude seems really nice. He kind of looks like a chick though.’

Just kidding, you’re a lovely young lady… I’d fuck you. Then
again, I’ll pretty much bang anything, so… I don’t know.
We’ll talk later.”

“Greg’s diet is pretty bad. The last time he saw a vegetable
was when he visited Christian at the hospital.”

You get the idea.

Don’t mess.

See you next time.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS