When you are stuck not knowing what to say

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Yesterday, you read the adventures of one of my students who reported how an attention hungry waitress totally jerked him
around AND you read my responses to his report.

Today he sent the following email, which I think will be very instructive to those of you who have ever been in this situation; where you lost control and the woman took over, with very bad results! I give him a clue on how to move forward when you are stuck not knowing what to say; a key secret to pull your seduction irons out of the fire when you get into trouble and find yourself tongue-tied, so read on!

Here is what he had to say today:

You know Ross, its eerie how you know more than what I put in the text, - its because you REALLY understand interactions with
women and, of course, because you are the genesis of Speed Seduction.

No arguments on your analysis - its dead on, and I was too caught up being led like the yeoman Ox - I’m embarrassed, but glad I
see now.

In my heart I was offering the tickets as bait - no question and straight truth. Women MUST value me instead of AFC “bait” which
only leads to disrespect for me.

On pattern language - you are right, I didn’t use any. I became flustered with “Oh crap, what am I gonna say next,” because I
normally would not crawl out of my shell and do this. So, I started reaching into my mind to come up with the “slickest” material I
could and devolved into AFC bait. Because I have not studied the material as I should and have not done the breathing exercises
and more fundamentals from the course, I won status as an AFC despite having the finest tools in my pocket.

Also, I knew I messed up by giving her my phone number and not getting hers. I thought I was being considerate of her “fears”
about a man she doesn’t know getting this personal, but - again - AFC rewards. I killed myself and I knew it. Yet I talked myself into the thinking, “What did I do wrong. She just doesn’t know a good opportunity when it comes.

Thanks for helping me see the mistakes. This shows me I need to make the change from being just someone who buys the course and hopes it will sink in by osmosis - to someone who understands it, applies it, lives it and benefits from it.

Ross, thanks again for your DEAD ON insight. This list is the finest tool to sharpen our minds and your participation in this list is INVALUABLE.

RJ: You are very welcome. Please note that it is through screwing up and then honestly and objectively looking at what we did that we begin to win half the battle; the other half is putting the new understandings into use.

One key I want to give you: if you are ever stuck with what to say, you can always get curious about the other person. Notice
what you notice about them and then bring it up in conversation!

In the case of this waitress you could have said, “Wow, you are unusually friendly. I really thought it was against the rules for a food serve to sit at the table with the customers. So is it that you like to bend the rules or just that you find some people worth bending the rules for?”

Do you see how this kind of question will do a couple of things:

1. If she’s just a tease, you have, in effect, called her on it and she will stop wasting your time.

2. You’ve shown some good insight into her behavior. Because either she’s doing this because she just likes bending the rules (in which case you could inquire more into where ELSE in her life she likes bending rules) or she’s doing it because she DOES see something interesting in you.

Many, many times when I have been stuck with what to say, I’ve simply gotten quiet inside and learned to observe the other person, get curious, and ask a question based on what I am curious about: is it that you are x or is it that you are y? (where x and y represent two possible explanations, either one of which points her mind and thinking in a seduction direction).

The other rule is: always use what they give you. She is giving you some potentially useful behavior and I think that she showed
some interest in you threw you off because you aren’t used to women showing interest in you.

Get used to it; when you use Speed Seduction® you will see interest-a lot more!

Piece and peace,

RJ

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