Tyler On Frame Control

As you may or may not know, I am absolutely in awe of a certain
dude who I work with. His name is Tyler. I tell everyone I
know, “This guy is a fricking GENIUS, yo.”

I *never* say that about ANYONE. But this guy is the real
mofckin deal, player.

Tyler is the Co-Founder of Real Social Dynamics, who has been
the creative mastermind and main public speaker at dozens of
seminars worldwide.

A graduate of the prestigous Queens University in Canada, Tyler
is a recreational ice-hockey player, and avid reader.

The foundational principles, concepts, and lessons of Real
Social Dynamics all center around advanced material Tyler
created while traveling around the world and analyzing male
and female interactions.

After writing thousands of articles on dating, fashion, and
nightclubs, Tyler began teaching at Real Social Dynamics
Classroom Seminars, and then taking students out at night to
become their personal wingman and instructor in the world’s
hottest venues to meet beautiful women during the day and
night.

From demonstrating his ability to captivate Playboy Models and
Miss America Beauty Pageant Contestants in front of large
groups of students, to helping students get the women of
their dreams, Tyler developed more street-credibility for his
findings and analysis on attraction than anyone else in the
world.

Whenever I have a conversation with him, I end up walking away
with a whole host of new insights and ways of looking at
whatever situation we discussed.

Frequently dense, his essays might take several repeated
readings before people absorb the whole meaning, but it’s
always worth it.

Of course, I’d be a fool to overlook this talent. That’s why
once a month or so, I ask Tyler to write a little something
for our newsletter.

This month, he took some time to whip up the following, on
the topic of frame control. I hope you enjoy it.

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Thanks JLAIX. You’re pretty damn great yourself.

So some girl just called me, that took my number four months
ago. She’s in a long distance relationship, and I guess she
cracked or something. Really hot girl - cool.

One thing that struck me when she called was “this girl is
calling ME.”

The pressure is on her to make it work.

I recall a similar situation that happened recently, that
resulted in a “full monty” within a few hours, with a girl
who picked me up at a sandwich shop.

Yes, you read right. I got picked up and laid by a hot girl.
She did all the work. It isn’t an uncommon occurance either.

Let me explain.

I am very aware of when I can hook a girl to game me with
sort of “open tension loops.”

For example, I can walk up to girls and say “Hey guys…”
and they look up, all excited that I’m about to spit
some game on them… “Do you know where the club ‘X-whatever-
club” is?”

They’ll want to keep the conversation going, and start
pushing it.

Now the cardinal rule of attraction is frame control. There
is always one person reacting to the other person more. No
matter how subtle. That is also why some guys have good luck
opening, and others don’t.

The guys who don’t come off as if they are reaction-seeking
will have attraction right from the opener, and the guys who
are reacting to the girls won’t.

So if a girl is “gaming you,” then even if you’re controlling
the frame less because you’re not “owning the interaction,”
if everything they’re doing is for your approval then you are
still controlling the frame.

There is a subtlety to this. In the girls’ mind, there is a
thought process that is saying “KEEP THIS CONVERSATION
GOING.” So if you try to take the frame from her because your
instinct says “Don’t let the girl control the frame on me”
and you want to do your usual thing like teasing her or
telling stories or whatever, then you’re actually shooting
yourself in the foot.

The reason being, that she was not totally validated by you
yet, and that was why she was gaming you.

Her mind was going through the process of trying to game you
and get your approval. If you start going into your normal
thing, and take control of the frame, you just took a
situation where all you had to do was lay back, and you made
it much more difficult.

You may have even killed attraction.

You can actually see it. She was working for you. Her mind
was on overdrive, trying to think of what to say next. She’s
asking the same questions in different ways, because she
can’t think of something else to say.

Or she’s doing typical “chode style” small talk on you, and
trying to milk every conversational thread for all it’s
worth.

The more clever girls will even do it in a way that’s more
subtle, but the overall meaning of the interaction is still
that she is gaming you.

This sort of thing is evident when you see a girl by the bar,
trying to game the bartender. Part of what is turning her on
is that she is chasing a challenge. If he just starts talking
and talking, it kills the challenge and she gets validated.

She doesn’t need to have sex with him to feel good, so she
moves onto a guy who will make her do so.

The thing with this is though, if you react too much to her
frame while she’s talking, then she also gets validation.

So you keep the frame by having a more clear voice than her,
and making the few things that you say funnier, wittier, etc.
etc. You can even tease her or test her on what she’s saying,
in playful ways.

At various points you can even take the frame powerfully and
run the conversation, but if you do decide to do that then
you will do well by handing it back to her in a way that
turns back on the “push this conversation” switch, so you can
maintain the advantages that you were benefitting from before.

The other important thing, is that you are usually
responsible for the “extraction” to a isolated location so you
can get it on.

Basically, you lay back and let her work, and then when you
can tell that she thinks she’s earned it, you escalate.

That could mean extract or even physically escalate. Like,
she says something that you can tell she thought would
impress you, and then you lean in to kiss her as if your
buying temperature went up and you went into state because of
what she did.

Even when you extract her, you wait until she starts trying
to suggest it with stuff like “Yeah, I’m so bored… I don’t
know where I’m going after this…”

Conversational ratio is something that very much affects the
validation levels of the people in the interaction. Always be
mindful of them. There is no single right answer.

Some girls respond better to guys who do all the talking
(aka - stacking), and who just let them sit there and giggle.

Others get too validated by it, and want to find some hot guy
that they can game.

And others require a mix.

Just be aware of what your conversational ratio is doing to
the meaning of the interaction, and how it is affecting the
level of attraction.

Remember also that you can re-set the conversational ratio
with a venue change to a different location.

So make use of these tools to your best advantage, and enjoy.

-TD

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Here’s what a recent attendee of one of our London programs
had to say:

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“Hey,

You guys did an great job this weekend, you all have
different styles, and it was awesome learning something
from each of you.

The first night with Alex, Mike and Todd was pretty eye
opening. I learned that the social responses I was getting
were caused by me, and that I could control what happened.

The second night I wanted to work on physical escalation,
and Tim taught me some cool kino games to play with the
girls, and Roxanna showed me how to lead the girls around,
and control the interaction.

The third night was definitely the highlight, and where it
all started coming together. Winging with Tyler was
awesome, I learned to act more natural and unreactive, and
it had profound results. My sets were lasting longer, and
the girls ended up gaming me. This was a huge realisation
for me, and was basically the main thing I wanted to get
out of the program - to be able to socialise naturally with
whoever I choose.

Now I know how I can get from cold approach, to making out,
to going home with a girl in the same night.

Thanks again guys, it’s been an awesome weekend.

-Adam”

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And ok, let me say a couple words about our new seminar
product:

THE SUPERCONFERENCE.

The Superconference was an idea hatched by Tyler himself.
Over the course of the past few years, he’s spent THOUSANDS
upon THOUSANDS of hours in the field, seeing how his
theories stack up against REALITY.

As a result, you’re not going to find anyone with a more
complete understanding of the social matrix and how it
functions.

Not anywhere.

Now, Tyler’s taken all of this knowledge and condensed it into
an easy-to-understand two day seminar that tells you POINT-BLANK
how to meet, attract and close the deal with any attractive
woman you see, any time, anywhere.

As I said before, this guy’s the real deal, player.

To learn more about what the Superconference covers and about
the newest program coming soon in Los Angeles, look at this:

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Okay buddy, thanks for reading, and we’ll see you here for
the next issue. Same bat-time, same bat-channel.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS