The Mexican Chicken Dance of Honor

Whassup… I’m not feeling so hot today. Looks like that week
of debauchery in Mexico did a number on my immune system.

This is unusual, because I haven’t gotten sick AT ALL since I
began my health quest of desire. The combination of proper
nutrition and workout made me INVINCIBLE for a while there.

But a week of binge drinking and smoking cigars left me
susceptible, and now I have the Mexican Bird Flu.

Imagine a chicken in a sombero dancing with two maracas.

Now imagine that same bird violently thrashing around in my
throat in a puddle of mucous, and you get a fair approximation
of how I’m feeling at the moment.

But whatever, sometimes, you need to unplug and cut loose. I
learned a lot of valuable lessons about myself on the trip and
made a lot of great connections, so it was worth it.

Aaaaanyways, what we do here is answer questions about the
game, not bitch and moan about central american poultry.

So let’s get right to it.

*** QUESTION ***

Gday how you doin!

My name is Daz and I’m a 21 year old from Melbourne Australia.
Been into the game for a couple of months now and things are
moving along pretty well.

Your newsletter is great! I’m planning on doing bootcamp at
the end of next month.

I’ve been going out once a week and my opening game has
improved a lot. I can approach women now without too much
anxiety. However I think I’ve hit a bit of a sticking point.

I meet the girls, and can entertain them with my energy,
funny stories, dancing etc. They seem to reach the point of
“social hook” where they are asking for my name, sitting
and dancing in close or touching my shoulder but I am having
trouble escalating past there.

While I’m consistently getting numbers, I feel like I’m just
being the funny, entertaining guy and there isn’t any sexual
tension.

I can’t seem to find a way to escalate to a more sexual
interaction.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Are there good
physical/conversational/body language techniques that I need
to know here?

Or just tips on being more flirty and sexual in general?

Thanks heaps
Daz, Melbourne.

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Daz. That’s a cool name. I believe Snoop Dogg’s cousin is
named Daz, and he’s a pretty decent rapper.

But yeah, I used to have this exact problem. I’d roll in, and
start gaming the chick up, and I’d gain attraction using my
crazy, funny antics and routines.

The thing is, I’d never STOP. Thirty minutes would pass, and I’d
still be busting the attraction material. Not long thereafter,
I would become “dancing monkey entertainment for the night guy.”

Trust me, you DON’T wanna be THAT GUY.

I wouldn’t phase shift into rapport because I was getting such
good reactions, and I didn’t want to risk losing that validation.

Learn to push yourself to take the pickup to the next level.
Once you’ve generated that attraction, FORCE yourself to
shift gears and start building that rapport.

Slow things down, isolate her to a quieter location, switch
the conversational ratio from 90/10 to 50/50, and begin
taking things in a more intimate, even sexual, direction.

Are you gonna lose some girls doing this? YES. And then you’ll
have to start all over, from the very beginning, by approaching
another.

But, just as you learned to get good opening and building
attraction, you will eventually get good at this stage as well.

So here’s my concrete advice: the next time you’re talking with
a girl and building attraction, pay attention to your watch. If
after thirty minutes you find yourself still doing all the
fun attraction stuff, consciously force yourself to phase-shift.

After a while, it will just come naturally.

Thanks for writing.

Next!

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Phone Game Material-let me know your thoughts…

Sometimes I’ll have a hard time getting back into the right
frame when calling a girl for the first time after getting
her number.

Approximately 80% of the time the girl will ask “So what’d
you do today?”

In the old days, I’d reply “Eh, pretty much hung out….you?”

She’d tell me that she hung out too - or explain how hungover
she was—regardless-it was lame, not fun (for either of us)
and completely my fault for not having a solid response
ready.

I’ve got consistent laughs over the past few weeks from
answering the “So what’d you do today?” question the
following way:

“Pretty much a typical saturday/sunday….[insert something
ridiculous---ideally something that a guy would never say if
he were trying to impress the girl]… you know… the
usual… you?”

Example:

Girl-”So what’d you do today?”

Hasselhoff- “Pretty much a typical Sunday… listened to my
Clay Aiken cd’s… oh, and worked on my Kelly Clarkson
scrapbook… you know… the usual… you?”

I will generally get two responses from this. If I said the
response with the appropriate comedic timing, the girl
erupts in laugher and will play along with the joke-
instantly we’re having a fun conversation.

If I messed up the timing, the girl will not completely get
the joke but know something isn’t kosher. I’ll typically
follow up with “[Girl's Name] I’m messing with you you
dork… I’m a pretty sarcastic guy… you’re gonna have to
try to keep up.”

I’ve had good responses- Let me know your thoughts on that-
and if you see any holes in my game.

Thanks guys.

-Hasselhoff

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Hey man… I actually like Clay Aiken. Have you heard his
rendition of “On the Wings of Love”?

FAR superior to the Jeffrey Osborne original. His
embellishments are beyond reproach, yo. DOWNLOAD IT NOW.

I liked him even more when I heard on Howard Stern that he
picked up a Green Beret online and attempted to fist him in
a hotel room. Small hands. Small hands.

Awesome!

But your approach here is absolutely spot on, my friend. The
key to good phone game lies in keeping the interaction SHORT
and FUN.

Remember, most guys are using the lame, boring approach that
you first talked about.

“Hey. What’s up. Cool.”

No… NOT COOL. WACK.

Even if you were standing right there in front of her, under
the best of circumstances, this would be retarded.

Trying to use this on the TELEPHONE, where she can’t even
SEE you, is basically shooting yourself in the foot.

So basically, what you’ve put forth here is a great example of
how to run a phone interaction. Set a fun, playful mood, set
yourself apart from the other guys.

Then it’s just a matter of either pitching to hang out, or
ending the conversation before she does (if your intent was
just to touch base and keep things warm, which is what I
recommend if it’s the FIRST time you’re calling her after
getting the number).

Looks like you’re headed in the right direction, man. Keep
up the good work.

This game is all about direction. Heck, LIFE is all about
direction. Setting the proper course, and making continuous,
small adjustments as you progress.

But when you don’t know what direction to go in, it’s hard
to even START. That’s where we at RSD come in.

Our live, in-field Bootcamp is designed to provide a roadmap
through the wilderness of social dynamics. We act as your
guides, warning you about the pitfalls, showing you the
established paths, and generally sending you into the game
PREPARED.

We make sure to take the time needed for each student to fully
understand the material. If you want to spend more time on any
particular subject, we explore it until you’re completely
satisfied that you grasp the concepts.

That’s really what makes our Bootcamps “Individualized”; it’s
not necessarily the low student-to-instructor ratio, but that
commitment to make sure YOU get the value you expect and
deserve from a program like this.

I’m willing to bet that you’re already picturing
yourself as a straight-up MACK, approaching beautiful women with
total confidence in your abilities… and more importantly,
converting those approaches to full-monty lays with remarkable
consistency. No more statistical roulette!

It’s there… you can see it.

You just need a little bit of motivation!

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Holla if you hear me!

Okay, that was my inner 2Pac. Moving right along…

*** QUESTION ***

OK, so I am an up and coming independent rap artist. I have
played shows in front of 60,000 people, am currently on tour,
hitting every city in the United States and packing shows.
I have a new album coming out in June, which will be
nationally distributed.

Women should be falling into my lap, right?

Here’s the problem… when I encounter a woman, which happens
NIGHTLY, women who come to the shows and want to say what’s
up, or that they liked my live show and want to buy a cd, I
figure, it’s time to open and establish value.

Invariably they walk away thinking I am an asshole. I do 1
small, playful ball breaking line, and then they think I’m
arrogant and rude.

I feel like if I try to be vulnerable and outwardly warm,
that it will lower my value to them.

The live show is a little abrasive too. I am very sarcastic
with the crowd, and rap about how I love cute women and shit.
But girls seem kinda bummed out by me, or afraid to talk to
me.

I do so much better at my pick ups when I am not doing the
rap music thing. I can approach any girl, establish a nice
little amount of value, and go in for the kill when they
don’t know what I do for a living.

But at my shows it’s a completely different story.

How the hell do I balance this out? It is totally screwing
with my level of confidence right now.

Warhol

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Well, you pretty much answered your own question here, man.

“Invariably they walk away thinking I am an asshole. I do 1
small, playful ball breaking line, and then they think I’m
arrogant and rude.”

The answer is to STOP USING THESE COCKY LINES.

Yes, I’m aware that you feel that it will lower your value
to show vulnerability.

But guess what?

In this particular instance, that’s precisely what you NEED
to do.

See, to these women, you’re waaaay up above them on the value
scale. You’re the big performer up on stage rocking the mic.
It’s taking some massive balls for them to even TALK to you,
so when you bust on them, you’re shattering them like an
eggshell.

You’re like this massive SUPERHUMAN up there on stage.

You need to show them you’re HUMAN, and come across as a
more vulnerable guy.

Look at EMINEM. This guy has some of the most despicable,
misogynistic lyrics out there. But (at the height of his
popularity at least) he was a major sex symbol. Why?

Because he displayed vulnerability. Despite the fact that he
rapped about murdering women and hating his mother, he had
a soft side… his daughter, whom he would lovingly refer
to in his songs.

The jerk with the heart of gold. A classic archetype.

When these girls come up to you, you want to SHOCK them by
how much of a GENTLEMAN you are. You want to leave them
thinking, “Oh, that stage show’s just an act, he’s sooo cool
and sweet in reality. *I* bring it out in him.”

Don’t be afraid to show vulnerability. What’s the worst that
could happen? You don’t get any action?

Well, that’s what’s happening NOW, so not much would change,
would it?

Give it a shot man. I think you’ll be pleased with the results.

Remember me when you become a superstar, man! Send me some
tickets when you roll through the Yay Area! Hyphy!!

Speaking of superstars, allow me a moment to introduce my
good friend and RSD Executive Producer, TYLER.

For the last four years, Tyler’s spent his every waking moment
developing the cutting-edge tactics that constitute the
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What you get is 8 full disks of interactive classroom
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Ok, no midgets or breakdancing are involved. Maybe when *I*
get my own seminar I’ll include that.

Anyways, it’s unbelievably tight, and it’s never going to
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All righty, it’s time for some hot tea and some rest.

I’ll beat this rascally Mexican chicken yet!

See y’all next time.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS