The Greatest Pick Up Hero

So I’ve got a whole new set of conversation starters that I’ve
been rocking lately, and I’d like to take this opportunity
to share a couple of them with you today.

As you may know, when I approach groups of strangers, a lot
of the time I’ll go in and ask them their opinion on a
certain topic. For example, I might inquire whether they feel
it’s best to floss one’s teeth before or after one brushes
them.

Well, you know, after a while, this kind of question gets a
little boring. Perhaps boring isn’t the right word for it. I
guess SHALLOW and UNINTERESTING would be more accurate.

So we decided to get to the bottom of some things we REALLY
wanted to know about.

With that in mind, I approached a group and, after getting
their attention, asked them this:

“So, I feel that existential philosophy, as put forth by the
French nihilists, is akin to mental masturbation; and
furthermore, I feel that it fosters a dangerous moral
relativism in our society. My friend says this isn’t true.

“What do you think?”

Oh man… I crack myself up.

They just sit there and go, “What?”

Then I roll into regular game. Boom.

Now, my fellow RSD playa Geoff came up with his own “deep
thought” style conversation starter, and it was about
globalization and the North American Free Trade Agreement.
Beautiful.

But who took the cake? None other than our very own Christophe,
who heard ours and came up with the following gem, delivered
of course in his irrepressible French accent:

“Hey gaiz… wat do zhou seenk aboud zee globalizashan of
global warmeen of zee thairmonucleair war in Europe?”

Stolen!

Anyway, it is in fact newsletter time, so let’s begin with
the usual Q&A session.

*** QUESTION ***

HI Jeffy

I was working with this idea of congruency. I’m following your
newsletters for quite a while now and I have come to realise
that this game is all about your state control and the frames
you set.

But I’m not very clear about this idea of congruency.
You have also not dedicated a newsletter just for this topic
which I feel is pretty important

Heres my idea of congruency. I think it is when you believe
what you do. I mean you have 100% faith in what you are doing
and are not doing anything tentatively, testing the waters
kind of a thing.

IS this belief in yourself congruency. Or is there something
more to it like some very subtle stuff which i didnt get.

Regards,

Naresh

Hey, I also want to know why you particularly are in the game?

Is it just for the sex or about enjoying female companionship
or both.

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Well, while frame and state control are in fact very
important, there is no “one thing” that the game is “all about.”

There are so many variables you have to monitor at all times,
which is why it’s tough going at first, when you’re still
in that stage of “conscious competence,” to juggle them all
dynamically in the field.

Taking a program can give you a comprehensive picture of
where you need to go and what you need to do, but it’s
EXPERIENCE that will make that knowledge ingrained so deep
that you no longer have to even THINK about it.

And it’s the same with being congruent.

Your idea of what it means to be congruent is on the right
track, but it’s not exact. Allow me to explain.

It’s not so much a belief or a faith in yourself as it is
a state of being. One where your actions, speech and behaviors
are completely in line with your core personality/identity.

In other words, it’s the old gem: you’re BEING YOURSELF,
100 percent.

Now, here’s the rub… when guys first come to the game, they
learn that what they’ve been doing thus far in their interactions
with women has been misguided and doomed to failure from the
start, and they begin the process of changing these behaviors
to the ones that are likely to result in success.

But a lot of these ideas and techniques seem counter-intuitive
at first. Many guys, upon learning what constitues good
game, will say, “But that’s just not me.”

Consequently, they may execute, but it’s just rote and mechanical.
It’s not coming from the heart.

Women can sense this. Hell, EVERYONE can sense this. And then
the techniques won’t work, because something’s off-kilter.

This is being INCONGRUENT.

The good news is, identity is a fluid thing. Over time, as you
continue to apply correct technique and begin to see results,
your identity will fall in line and THAT is when you
become “congruent” with the “material.”

Unfortunately, many guys will get discouraged when they find
themselves lacking in congruence. Just have faith in the
process and trust that it’s only a matter of time.

Like the old Japanese proverb says, “Fall down seven times;
get up eight.”

Booyah.

Next caller.

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

I am a long time reader of the newsletter and a former
Bootcamp student from last year. First of all I would like to
say thanks to all of the instructors including you.

To all the readers I want to say BELIEVE. This stuff works.
Here is my story.

There is this hottie at my school that I never met. We met
online through other online friends. I just read your
newsletter about online game and wanted to see if it would
work.

Not only did it work but it worked exactly like your example.
Here are our messages to each other.

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Me: OMG is that the chronic tattooed on your butt LOL! Bad girl!
You dork it’s not even real.

her: i know its henna…silly…i just seemed right since i
was on holiday with my girl in puerto vallerta, mexico…pish
posh fun times.

Me: Hey. You’re kind of cute. dork.

Her: lol…ur a dork.

dum dum:)

Me: OMG! You are a fiesty one and soooo adorable! You know
what I’d to do to you? ;) . . . . . Not that get your mind
out of the gutter.

I want adopt you. I would wrap you up and bring you home with
me. You would be my brand new lil sister. I’d tuck you in at
night and take you outside to play. All the other girls would
be so jealous.

Don’t act too bratty though because I am not afraid to put
the spank down where that tattoo used to be. :)

her: k…but why do i have to be your lil sis? i already have
a big bro!

I wouldnt mind being your naughty lil muse or something! im
a very naughty girl…a freak if you will.

I think I could have fun with you…I could have fun doing
anything! I’m crazy and creative and very sexual…lol.

I like to role play…I have a few outfits…a french maid
which you prolly saw on my pics…a naughty school girl,
dominatrix, and some others…I will leave a lil more for
your imagination…

Me: You are so bad you’re good. We probably wouldn’t get
along… we’re too similar. I wouldn’t take your nonsense,
you wouldn’t take mine, and we’d just fight all the time,
then have, like, freaky make-up sex where you’re the naughty
school girl and I’m the strict teacher!

I’m not sure I’m ready for a crazy relationship like that
right now.

Then again, maybe I am.

I’m so confused! Could you handle it?

:P

Her: yo whos talkin bout a relationship…im just talkin bout
hangin and sex…lol…im so damn forward…maybe not the
last part…

drop me a line…give me a jingle…dial my digits

[phone number]

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BAM number… it’s that simple!

I also met another cute chick this week who was working. She
was a check out girl and we were making eye contact and
exchanging smiles.

I paid for my stuff and was ready to leave with my friends
when I stopped. I figured I had nothing to lose and there was
a definite vibe between us.

I rolled back into the line behind a customer with nothing in
my hands. I was very direct given the limited time I had.

I looked her in the eye, smiled, said hi.

“This is going to sound weird and I never do this but I think
you are really cute could I get your number?” I KNOW. WEAK
ASS LAME BUT WAIT!

She said “Thanks! I have a boyfriend. I just don’t want to
give you the wrong idea.”

I said “I understand but you never know. We should talk
though.”

She says “Okay. Is it okay if i give you email because my
boyfriend might freak out if you call?”

I said “Ok”

She writes her email down and hands it to me smiling. I take
it and then introduce myself and shake her hand. We didn’t
even know each other’s names until then!

I would have usually pushed for the number but this time I
was confident because of my other online game success. I’ll
get the digits soon enough off email.

I’ll write more successes soon.

A few years ago I was just a “chode” and never would have
done any of this. I would have went home and kicked myself
for not taking a chance.

Thanks,

Alfredo

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Rock on buddy.

One thing that I constantly reiterate is the fact that this
game is, at once, easier AND more difficult than people make
it out to be.

Once you know the fundamentals and you execute them congruently,
it can seem like you’ve been granted superpowers, like that
old TV show “The Greatest American Hero” featuring that dude
with the curly hair.

“Believe it or not, I’MMMMM walking on air… I never thought
I could feel so free-EEEE-EEEE!! Flying away on a wing and a
prayer… whoooooo could it beeeeeee…. believe it or not,
it’s just MEEEEEEE….”

Uh… anyway…

This is the stuff you only see in the movies. We’re doing
COLD WALKUPS on STRANGERS. And making it work.

Now, you have the power to seize the day when you’re buying
groceries and you see that stunner that makes your heart leap
into your throat.

No more standing on the sidelines. You’re a man of action.
You have the balls.

You have the skills.

And before you know it, you have the girl.

This stuff is REAL. I get letters daily from guys
thinking I make this stuff up.

Why would I do that? Seriously… if this is all some elaborate
scam, it’s not really cost effective. We could make a lot more
scratch doing nigerian fishing cons.

Look. You know deep down this is possible. And when you take
the RSD Bootcamp, it WILL BE… for YOU.

Each Bootcamp is customized to your individual needs,
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Oh baby. So… moving right along…

*** QUESTION ***

I am a medical doctor and have been reading your email
a couple months now. Very good stuff!

My question to you is how do I use being a doctor to help me
get the women I REALLY want??? It seems obvious to everyone
but me, but I have never been one to go around telling people
what I do.

I know it is a part of me and I ought to be using it.

Thanks,

Kevin

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

This is a great question and I’m immediately reminded of
a relevant situation.

I had a brain surgeon on program once. The guy drove a Dodge
Viper. Extremely bright, alpha guy.

So anyway, while in the club, I had him go up and
say, “Hey I’m a brain surgeon” almost right off the bat.

Well, the girls would blow his ass right off, because they
either thought he was lying or a braggart.

So here’s what we did. I had him think of a funny story that
happened while he was working at the hospital.

So he’d tell it, the chicks would laugh, and then inevitably
ask, “You work at a hospital?” and he’d shrug and say all
nonchalant, “Eh yeah, I’m a neurosurgeon… whatever” and
move on immediately.

The story was so good it stood on its own merits but just
happened to contain the information that he wanted to convey.

Later on, as you ramp up attraction and physical escalation, you
can let her know that your medical training and knowledge of
anatomy gives you incredible sexual powers.

Hopefully, this is true. If not, well, what did you go to med
school for anyway?

Haha, just kidding. Of course it was to help humanity.

Speaking of which, lemme introduce you to the world’s
greatest philanthropist, my good buddy and RSD co-founder,
TYLER.

He’s rocking the globe with his latest home study seminar course.

It’s known affectionately around here as THE FOUNDATIONS.

Though the program lasts only two days, you’ll be thinking
over the material he presents for WEEKS afterwards.

It’s packed beyond full with instantly applicable information
that will take yourgame and your understanding of the social
matrix to the next level. Like the Bootcamp, this is really an
incredible value for the money.

I know you’re curious. Act on that feeling and find out what the
Superconference is all about by visiting here:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/foundations.asp

That does it for today. I´ll check you later.

Until then, take care.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS