Smacked Back Into Reality

Man, I feel like a total slob today. I’ve been doing a lot
of work on the book this week, and as such I’m in full-on
“writer mode.” Meaning I haven’t shaved or taken a shower
in several days. Hell, I haven’t even left the house.

There’s no need for hygeine when I’m in writer mode. Because
all I’m doing is sitting in front of a computer for 14 hours
at a stretch. Maybe I’ll throw on some flip-flops and go to
the corner store for cans of tuna, which I will eat directly
out of the can with some pepper.

Writer mode renders everything except the writing unimportant.

Girls will call. I answer. “Whatcha doin’?” they chirp.

“Writin’,” I grunt in response, “come by.”

Writin, come by. Not exactly advanced game here.

Don’t matter, they come by and bring me stuff. They massage
my sore neck and back. They engage in sexual activity with
my disheveled, pungent carcass.

What can I say? There’s an element of romantic appeal to
the slovenly writer going about his craft in a single-minded
frenzy, oblivious to all other concerns.

That said, I’m considering taking a shower at some point.

Hell, I’ll crank out one more newsletter, then call it a
session.

Here we go:

*** QUESTION ***

I asked you a question before and your answer was that it
wasn’t about the routines. Duh.

My problem is that I am not reaching the hook point
consistently.

I’ll go in, either with routines, or I’ll just talk about
stuff. I can do that pretty well with an outgoing upbeat vibe,
lots of expressiveness.

So I come across cool, not weird or anything. They’ll smile
and look interested while I’m talking. But they are not
contributive, they don’t ask me stuff and as soon as I stop
talking they go back to paying attention to each other.

I can only blab for so long before running out of steam.

And I suspect that that would be taking me down the dancing
monkey route anyway. So what do I need to do to get better
at hooking their attention?

I’ve been throwing out some tease/attract stuff, but rarely
and sporadically. I still don’t have the proficiency with it
to blend it seamlessly into the symphony of the interaction,
which maybe is part of my problem right there.

I hesitate to use a lot of it right at the beginning too
(which is where I need it) because it seems kind of out of
left field.

But maybe that doesn’t matter, and I should just whip them
out anyway?

Should I just start calling them fiesty powerpuff girls and
total badgirls and so on for no good reason whatsoever? Toss
out mini-coldreads even if I don’t have anything credible to
base them on?

If I successfully hook them, they should be trying to get
rapport with me, correct? Giving me indicators of interest
and asking me questions and all that?

So what do I need to do differently to make that happen?

Should I just keep blabbing and pummeling them with
attraction material until then? And if it doesn’t happen,
then what? Just keep it going or give up and move on?

Come on dating coach. I’m ready to rock. RSD really filled me
in on how to really do this stuff actually for real, but I’m
still foggy on a lot of the details as to how this all goes
down and that translates into poor execution on my part.

Your adoring student,
Lee

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Yes.

WHAT THE HELL DUDE.

You aren’t listening to me. Let me go through your mail here.

AGAIN, it’s not about what you say.

It’s about your body language (close space, stand relaxed and
confident with strong eye contact, making it clear you are a
SEXUAL guy, not a damn chode for their entertainment).

It’s about your voice (powerful, commanding projection,
rhythm, pacing for hypnotic effect).

It’s about OWNING THE FRAME (being an undeniable force).

It’s about calibrating your perceived value relative to hers
and adjusting your tone accordingly to break or strive for
rapport.

Finally, it’s about hitting her blueprint (i.e. discovering
her preferences and highlighting the aspects of your
personality which coincide with them and downplaying those
that do not).

All of this must be simultaneously and dynamically monitored.

Now do you understand how the routines are merely a “tool” to
automate the conversation so you can focus on the pick up on
a meta level?

Don’t think about the routines themselves, think about WHAT
the routines DO.

The motivations behind them, why they work to get the girls
all giggly and excited aka “in state.”

Routines can: display wit, humor, intelligence, quickness,
confidence, social value, sexuality. If you don’t display
these from the get go, especially the last one, you’re DONE.

They have to view you as someone that is engaging them
sexually.

You need that tension for chemistry to ignite.

The danger is coming across as a “creepy perv,” but you have
to calibrate. The fact of the matter is, most guys err on the
side of caution, and consequently just end up standing there
like a dode.

You’ve got to push things.

Remember, you don’t know where the edge really is until
you’ve been over it.

Experiment.

DO IT.

Attraction is not logical, it’s all EMOTIONAL. You don’t need
a REASON for anything.

Look, without seeing you in action, I can only speculate, but
from what you’re saying, it sounds like you just need to stop
THINKING so much, and start FEELING the rhythms and the
energy of the interaction more.

Make it clear through your facial expressions and proximity
etc. that this is a PICKUP.

The foggy feeling is normal. There are many parallel focuses
when you’re learning this stuff, and it takes a while for it
to all cohere and make sense as a whole, and it becomes
second nature.

You advance in plateaus. You’re gonna screw up. Get over it
and get the interactions under your belt.

It’s only when you completely DON’T GIVE A DAMN that you
begin to have mind-blowing success.

You can do this.

Your humble dating coach,

Jlaix

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Hey, I rolled with Mike (Sydney) in program last month. Since
then I’ve been with several women and had some really
fantastic experiences.

Unfortunately, I’ve regressed to being a wild teenager and
kind of screwed myself financially.

I sort of made up for all those times I missed out on in my
Youth.

Anyway, I live in Taiwan, I’ve been with several women, I can
easily pick up, (Although I’m in Asia, it’s really easy.)
I was in Hong Kong for two days doing a Visa run and had no
place to stay. The bar scene was all business men preying on
anything with long hair, myself included.

So I did some street pickup the next day and approach after
approach women were just cold and busy (I always pushed it as
far as I could).

By the way Hong Kong women are the hottest I’ve seen in my Asian
travels. I hooked one in Soho but her teeth were horrible.
Pass.

Then at a Starbucks I saw a stunner reading a book, I did my
typical street pickup routine.

“Hi, where can I buy some cool clothes?”

In like flynn, needless to say I had an all expense paid trip
in hong kong with a nights stay.

This lifestyle rules.

Question, I work with this girl, I’ve flirted with her,
nothing serious or hard core, but now she gives me attitude.

I don’t want work drama and she’s getting married to some
chode in the states. But I can’t seem to stop thinking about
these obsessive conversations with her. It’s so ducking lame
dude.

I really want nothing to do with her, she’s not even my style,
why the hell do I even think about her?

Even though I’m constantly getting conjugal visits frequently
from women even hotter than her.

What’s the deal dude?

Did you ever go though this?

Thanks,

RPP

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Honestly, I don’t know what to tell you here. Perhaps a quote
from Blaise Pascal said it best:

“Le coeur a ses raisons que la raison ne connaît pas.”

The heart has reasons that reason knows not of.

I have a strange predilection for chubby blonde girls, who
knows why. It’s best not to question these things.

Just roll with it, yo.

Of course, in your situation, that’s probably not the best
idea, but hey. It’s your life, man.

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*** QUESTION ***

Hello Jeffy,

Been reading your newsletter for some time now, and it keeps
inspiring me to work hard and become the person that I want
to be. But I do have a specific game-related question for
you:

It seems that every time I get past the initial attraction
game (to the point where I’m sure she’s not flaking on me
and/or I’ve kissed her), the only thing I seem to be able to
do to move things along is to give her the impression that
I’m willing to be in a long-term relationship with her.

This means I’m calling her every day, listening to dumb
stories that I don’t want to hear, emotionally attaching
myself to her and being a total liar.

Telling a woman I love her, and that I’ll do anything for
her, just to get laid seems like a horrible thing to do, and
it’s not the kind of game that I want to play.

Since I’m looking for casual sex, and definitely NOT a
serious relationship, I need your advice on this subject.

What am I doing wrong?

Thanks a lot,

Bob

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

I want to start by commending you for having the guts to
live a life free of deceit and lies. Telling somebody you
love them in order to get laid IS in fact pretty messed up.

That said, I’m concerned that you’re bringing this upon
yourself.

You said, “the only thing I *SEEM* to be able to do…”

This leads me to suspect that this is an issue of your
inner game, not anything coming from the women themselves.

It’s your mentality. WHAT exactly is stopping YOU from
moving things forward?

Are you even ATTEMPTING to move things forward, or is this
merely some vague, nebulous FEELING you’re getting?

If it’s the latter, then we have an inner game issue here
my friend.

Look. If you wanna be the player, you have to walk the player
walk. If you are wanting to have casual sex, but everything
about your demeanor screams NICE RELATIONSHIP GUY, then
of course the woman is going to feed that right back to you.

The solution lies in becoming congruent with the player
persona.

Do you think I ever have these kinds of problems?

Hell no buddy!

I meet the girls, I’m an awesome fun guy, I move things
forward and get them alone, then it’s GO TIME.

Do they ever try to put the kibosh on my advances, saying
things like, “It’s too soon, I hardly know ye Jeffy?”

Of course!

But I just back off for the moment, remain completely
composed, and keep rocking them with my AWESOME, FUN, INTENSE
personality. It’s like nothing they’ve ever seen.

They gotta have it yo!

And that means they will inevitably hang around me again.
When that happens, the pressure is ON once more… they know
I’m a player, but at the same time, I’m so much fun, and so
cool, and so unlike anyone they’ve ever met…

…and I continue to apply that pressure. Slow burn. Unrelenting.

Sooner or later, BOOM. We are having that most intimate of
connections.

On my terms.

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Okay, I’m tapped out. Time to go take that well-deserved
shower. Fresh from an Irish spring.

Keep it cool y’all, I’ll see you soon.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS