Save the Cheerleader, Save the World

The title of this issue has absolutely nothing to do with
anything. At all. I just like the way it sounds.

Come to think of it, it makes sense that cheerleaders would
appeal to me, as it seems I’ve become a bit of a JOCK lately.

All I do is drink protein and probiotic berry powder, ride
my bike and lift weights. I look at little pencil neck hipsters
and laugh at their frail musculature.

Things have gotten so bad that I’ve even begun listening to
freakin’ JOCK JAMS before I go out. You know, like the crap
they play during football games to pump everyone up.

I’m so ashamed. But who will stop me?

Save the Cheerleader, Save the World!

Aaaanyway, today is happy day mail time. Let’s get crackin’ and
take our first caller:

*** QUESTION ***

Dear jeffer.

I have written to you a few times before but apparently my
letters weren’t witty or relevant enough to get a response.
SO SORRAY.

Haha just kidding like I care but anyway, I have recently
followed your lead and quit drinking. And much like you, I was
the caustic bastard that got drunk and it was really a huge part
of my charm and my identity. And I had much luck with the girls,
but I get over the falls sometimes and blow myself out. Live and
learn.

But now, I’m this new sober guy, and I’m feeling totally
refreshed and clean slate, but I go out to the clubs now, and
its like Jesus man I cant get in state, half of it is just not
having the right frame of mind to go up and approach, and the
other thing is I’m just out and everybody’s wasted and I’m just
sitting there and thinking, this is so LAME.

So I know this is a huge limiting belief, which is lame cause my
game has been so much better then this up until quitting
drinking, but I think now if I can over come this hurdle it will
be farther through the roof cause I’ll be so much smoother and
smarter without being wasted.

So I guess what im saying is, how can I go out to the clubs, not
get drunk at all, and get myself in state, go hammer out some
approaches and get back to my former party animal self minus the
alcohol?

One other thing is, when I do an approach or whatever, if I don’t
get blown out in the first 1 second from not being in state, my
game post-approach is still super good, im smooth as silk.

Ok so your advice is sick, and this one I think hits close to
home, how did you drop the alcohol crutch and come back and kick
some serious ass?

Im looking forward to a bootcamp in Toronto soon

Thanks bro

A

>>>>>> >>>>>> MY REPLY:

Ok, I’m uniquely qualified to answer this since I used to get
wasted every night I went out.

See, I was at a point where alcohol was inextricably intertwined
with my player identity… “jlaix the hard-drinking SOB maniac
etc.” and as such it was very difficult to stop. I was convinced
I couldn’t get into state without it.

But what happened was, yeah, I’d get into state, then be all
awesome for 30 minutes, then crap out get tired and lose focus,
and just want to leave, or worse, I’d “go over the falls” and act
fucking belligerent and psychotic.

What did it for me was proving to myself that I could get into
state without it. I’d go out and say, “No beer until I get into
state.” Then, once I got into state, I’d find that I didn’t even
CARE about the beer anymore.

Additionally, after all this time in the gym, I didn’t want that
to go to waste on some “empty carbo-calorie nightmare.” If I do
drink, I stick to the OFFICIAL DRINK OF THE SUMMER OF RIPPED
ABS: the vodka and soda. 100 calories, zero carbs.

Finally, I will drink “faux cocktails” to fool my mind int
thinking I’m drinking. My fave is the TONIC AND LIME… it
tastes almost like a gin and tonic…

I’ve even given it to drunk chicks to taste and they think it’s
the real thing. Fools you physiologically, having the drink in
the hand, going through the motions… otherwise I find I get
BORED in a bar quickly. Another good one is SODA AND BITTERS.

Or just water. My new motto is JUST DRINK WATER.

I might get that tattooed on my knuckles so I am constantly
reminded to hydrate… DRINK WATER. That would probably extend
my lifespan by several years.

Next!

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Dude,

Tim took a poor new orleans evacuee and made him into a super ny
stud. And in my mind, to master any skill in NY is to take
things to another level.

For one test, he sent me solo into a group of 9 cuties/hotties.
I went in like a harmless doe and had them feeding off of my
energy.

I felt like a big wave surfer. The rush was amazing.

Question:

When you have a great girlfriend, i.e. long term material, and
assuming you have both agreed to a monagomous relationship, how
do you deal with your cravings to game?

I have a great girl out of the dozens I game and and yet I miss
the rush of going out and approaching.

Your thoughts?

M to the G

>>>>>> >>>>>> MY REPLY:

Okay, conflicted much?

Here’s my take on the whole thing:

Men always want what they DON’T have.

Guy is in a relationship? He thinks it sucks, and sees
hotties everywhere he could game up.

Guy is NOT in a relationship? He longs for connection and is
always on the lookout for “the one.”

Guys always think the grass is greener on the other side.

I’ve been on both sides EXTENSIVELY, yo. And I’m here to report
back:

It’s not greener over there. It just looks like it. It’s an
optical illusion, dude.

I think the solution for most guys is a healthy BALANCE. That
means spending periods where you play the field, and periods
where you are in relationships. It’s that simple.

Right now, for example, I’m in a relationship and I don’t
feel the need to go out and game. On program I do the old
catch-and-release, and I’m totally happy with that…

…for NOW.

In the future, I’m sure that will change. But right now, I’ve
been traveling a lot, and having all these wild adventures,
and frankly just kind of want to settle down for a bit and
catch my breath.

That’s what’s going on NOW, and I’m satisfied by this.

I’ve HAD enough stripper threesomes to last me a lifetime. I
don’t feel the NEED to do that anymore.

…at least not NOW.

Now, with your situation, you’re asking me to tell you what is
best for YOU. I can’t do that. Only YOU can.

Hear me?

Cool.

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Next question.

*** QUESTION ***

Hi Jlaix, how zit !

Keep reading your newsletters, very informative and interesting.

What I’ve realized is that what you teach us, are social skills.
Not that I’m gonna use RSD techniques on my buddies or anything,
but along with coaching and the fact that people see their
surroundings in a new, better & different “light” after studying
this material for a while, I have a question for you.

This are first & foremost meant to improve my game with chicks
but also to improve my social skills in any given social
situation..

So I’m the observer type of guy, often quiet, laid back, more or
less cool & collected. I really don’t talk to much. Sometimes I
find it difficult to jump on the “vibe-wave” and hit it off with
some chicks or my buddies. Guess I’m the introverted kind of
person, enjoying my own company, but not the most dominate in
social settings.

Any tips on how to improve this?

Look forward to your next newsletter,
Hasta la pasta
AO/NYC

>>>>>> >>>>>> MY REPLY:

Well, there’s good news, and not so good news.

The good news is that “vibing” is just a skill, like any
other.

That means that you first have to set out to improve in this area, then you must undergo a period of intense practice and
repetition in order to become CONGRUENT with the new behavior
patterns.

In other words, you have to get comfortable interacting with
people in all imaginable scenarios & attracting them, so it
becomes WHO YOU ARE. This is what congruence is all about.

This practice and repetition is the only way to congruently
project a cool vibe effortlessly, which is necessary for success
in this area. It’s only through mass social experience that you
can cultivate a noticeably improved level of social intelligence.

Let’s face it: a lot of guys who come to this stuff are, quite
frankly, geeks. Maybe you’re one of them. I certainly was when I
first got into the game. The problem with these guys is that
they harbor a lot of misconceptions about what it’s gonna take
to get their game up to the level they want it.

Make no mistake, it may feel strange to adopt these high-value
behaviors at first. At one point in your life, it probably felt alien and strange to ride a two-wheeled bicycle.

You practice and eventually it just becomes a part of you.

Getting real experience, in the field, is the only way to
integrate these teachings into your life congruently.

Push through your fears and put your personality on the line.
Remember, it’s all a learning experience.

Hope that helps.

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Well, it would appear as though my work is done here. Time
for a much-needed break down at the local pub.

That is, right after I totally jam out to C&C Music Factory’s
hit single, “Everybody Dance Now.”

Yeah, whatever. Don’t look at me like that, you know you love it
too.

EEEEVERYBODY DANCE NOW!!!!

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS