Passing A Woman’s Tests

As you get better at talking to women, you’ll
discover they set up hurdles to see how you
handle them. Learn the right way, and not
only will you be closer to where you want to
be - you’ll become more attractive in the
process.

Roadblocks

We’re going to talk about some roadblocks
now. You may have the attitude and the moves
- but there are always going to be twists
thrown at you along the way.

Ever been stood up? Have a woman show up an
hour late with little or no warning? Whine
when she isn’t getting her way?

Suuuuure you haven’t.

Why does this happen?

The truth is, most of the time this sort of
behavior is YOUR OWN fault. It comes from
your initial meetings - either she didn’t
have as much fun with you as she should have,
or you gave an indication that you can be
walked over, or she just plain didn’t get
excited by you.

These are all things you can solve by
perfecting your relaxed confidence and
playful attitude. That’ll get rid of most
flaky behavior.

But sometimes women do this just to see what
kind of man you REALLY are. Maybe she wants
to see you again - but refuses your first
request for her digits.

She might say she does that because she
doesn’t want to be seen as easy - hell, she
might even believe it.

But what this REALLY does is reveal who she’s
dealing with. How do you react to the
pressure? Do you get nervous, defensive?
FLEE? Do you bow your head, shrink your
shoulders, and say “That’s ok, I was just
wondering. Nevermind.”?

I used to. I also used to drool over my
Gerber’s meals. Doesn’t mean I still have to.

Oftentimes the woman just wants to see if the
confident face you’re presenting is for real.
Women have tons of tests they use on men -
most of them unconscious - but after being
approached by hundreds or thousands of guys
over the years, women need this sort of thing
to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Don’t be thrown. Recognize it as a test, and
don’t let it break your character.

Handling hurdles

Now, that doesn’t mean you get pushy. Lots of
guys know they shouldn’t just cave in - but
they swing too far the other way, and scare
women off. You want to stay playful - like
what she decides to do in any situation isn’t
given huge importance in your life. You’re
going to have fun regardless - and if she’s
smart, she’ll join in, but if not, her loss.

So, if she rebuffs a digit query, PLAY with
it. “Yeah, that’s a good idea. Truth be told,
I just always wanted to write one of those
“For a good time call…” messages in the
little boy’s room.” Keep playing with her -
that sort of an opening allows for all KINDS
of fun - and then later say “Excuse me, I
gotta use the bathroom (beat beat), what’s
your number again?”

If you’re in a bar and the woman doesn’t want
to be led to another area, feel free to
TEASE. “Ok, the REAL reason I’m asking is
because you look like you need the exercise.
I was trying to be discreet, but now you’ll
just have to do your laps by yourself.” Make
sure you handle this playfully, and don’t be
scared to throw her by SHOWING YOUR BACK.

That’s right, if she’s not playing along,
there’s no better way to say “You’re no fun”
than to withdraw attention. If you’ve done
the job of piquing her interest, chances are
VERY good she’ll work to get it back.

And that’s what you want. You don’t want to
constantly try to please her - she’ll know
it, slowly lose respect for you and set the
bar higher and higher. And the farther you’ll
bend over backwards to please her, the less
she’ll like you.

It’s a strange world.

But if you make it clear that being boring,
being difficult, or - worst of all - being
(legitimately) bratty isn’t something you’re
going to allow into your life, not only will
you gain her respect and pass her tests,
you’ll probably have to deal with such
behavior a lot less.

A few more examples. If you’re on the phone
and you’re lady gives you a wishy-washy
“Maybe” when you set up a meeting, cut off
the possibility of a no-show from the get-go.

“Listen, if there’s one thing I hate, it’s
flaky people. You sound like you aren’t sure
about this: if you’re not going to show, tell
me now. That’s cool - but wasting my time
isn’t.” A strong statement like that will
usually shock a lady out of her doubt - or,
worst case, you’ll find out early on whether
she’ll be there or not.

She shows up late and gives the flippant
insincere “Sorry.” What can you say?

“That’s alright. After all, now you owe me a
drink, so I’m happy.

“By the way, my usual is a magnum of Dom
Perignon.”

It’s all about attitude

You see what’s going on here? For the most
part, you want to keep it light and happy,
but you DON’T want to back down OR get upset.
Your attitude should be “I enjoy my life, and
if you want to join the fun, you’re welcome -
but if you’re going to throw bullshit my way
or try to bring me down, I’ll look elsewhere
for interesting people.”

As the above statement makes clear, this
isn’t just about early tests. If you’ve got a
girl you’ve been seeing awhile but she starts
getting negative or whiny, the same sort of
thing applies.

I once had a lady I’d been seeing for about
two months, when she emailed me a message
saying she loved me, and asked if I loved her
too. I responded playfully - made fun of her
moving too fast like a horny high school boy.

She came back with “How could you sleep with
me if you don’t love me?”

I responded “You’re getting way too serious.
This is absolutely no fun at all.”

How’d it turn out? She wound up apologizing
to ME! If you START playful and you STAY
playful, you can lose all that negative crap
much more easily than you think.

Not to mention, when you finally get to a
point where you want to share a serious talk
(NOT TOO EARLY DAMMIT!) you make it all the
more meaningful.

Sorry… homework!

So what’s your job for this installment? Get
out that attraction journal and mark a page
“Tests” Write down every test you can think
of - everything that’s happened to you or you
can imagine happening. They can be things
women do to find out about your true
character - to find out if you’re real or
just an act - or they can simply be things
that test your cool and control.

Then, under each entry, write down ways you
can KEEP your cool. Lines you can use. Images
you can call up to help you stay in the right
frame of mind. Triggers that bring out your
relaxed happy self.

Leave plenty of space, because you’ll
constantly find new tests (I still do), and
you’ll also come up with better responses
over time. Plus, when you get a very
confident sharp woman, these sorts of
exchanges can go back and forth almost
indefinitely - and you don’t want to be the
one to break the chain. When the sexual
tension is being dialed so high, you need to
have the confidence to keep bringing it
FARTHER.

Trust me. She’ll end up ripping your clothes
off. But you can’t change into a wimp in
front of her eyes. It’s like a beautiful
woman smiling and revealing a mouth half full
of black half rotten teeth.

MAJOR turn-off.

Learn to recognize these tests as
opportunities - to pass, to get closer to
your goal, and ALSO to TURN UP THE TENSION.
Get comfortable here. It’s the best place to
be.

And until it’s second nature, you’re going to
want to keep PLENTY of notes in your journal
about the journey.

I’ve seen ugly men, short men, bald men,
broke men have their choice of women. Some
got it while still a young man, other guys
built up a reliable system later.
And plenty have changed their life by heeding
the step by step advice contained in my
classic course, Seduction Science 3.0, found here:
http://www.seductionscience.com/3rdedition
All the processes involved in seduction are broken down into
workable, easy to learn steps that REALLY work.

Enjoy.

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com