Operating in a Low-Key Environment

So an interesting thing happened the other day.

I was on a special weekend assignment with Geoff, one of my
fellow RSD Executive Coaches, traveling for Bootcamp.

We were staying at a well-known four star hotel. This particular
property, however, seemed to be a little lacksadaisical on
the service tip.

For example, I called down to the front desk to ask where the
gym was, and they answered the phone by GRUNTING.

Okay… whatever…

So later on, Geoff decides that his face is feeling a little
dehydrated, so he’s looking around in the bathroom for some
moisturizer. There isn’t any.

He calls down to the front desk. They answer with a cheerful
grunt, and he asks them to bring up some moisturizer to the
room. The guy on the other end seems annoyed, but agrees to
send it up.

Twenty minutes later, they come up with the moisturizer.

Geoff, delighted, begins to apply it to his face. He smears it
all over his face and starts rubbing it in. As he is doing so,
he looks at the container and realizes…

It’s not moisturizer. It’s hair conditioner.

He runs out into the room with this stuff on his face and
yells in anguish, “It’s HAIR CONDITIONER!!!”

I couldn’t stop laughing for five minutes.

But hey, that wasn’t as bad as the time I was hung over and
mistakenly put hemhorroid cream on my toothbrush.

Anyways, it’s fluffy happy newsletter time again, featuring
reader mail… from readers.

*** QUESTION ***

Greetings,

I’m just curious as to how your techniques would work on
quiet/shy girls outside of a club or party enviroment. The
type of girl that is not ALWAYS peacocked out.

I love your stuff but a lot of it seems very high energy and
geared towards either the type of girl that will party every
night she can get the chance to, or towards high-status
women that run with modelling agencies, and what have you.

My question is this: Would you game the same way in a library,
on a one-on-one, at a bus stop, if she was a bored cashier on
a quiet night, etc.

Cheers,

Will

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Okay, common question.

The tactics and techniques we espouse are based on universal
principles of human behavior which don’t change from setting to
setting.

In fact, I would even go so far as to say that if you can game in
the clubs, you can game ANYWHERE, especially a low-key environment
like the grocery store, where you don’t have to compete with
loud music, intense lights, competition from other guys, etc. It’s
like training with heavy weights strapped to you, then removing
them for the competition. If you can handle the clubs, this
convenience store stuff should be a cinch.

That said, however, you’re right in the sense that you can’t
run the club game in that environment without making SOME
modifications.

The most important thing is to calibrate to the energy of the
set. You want to come in to the set at an energy level equal to
or *slightly* higher than the girl’s.

In the club, this means that you have to roll in fairly high
energy, in order to compete with all the stimuli all around them.
Most girls out at the club are there to have a good time, and if
you roll in half-asleep and all serious, you’re not even going
to register on their radar screen. So you have to approach
with a very fun, upbeat demeanor in that environment.

Try the same thing at the mall, however, and you’ll look like
some kind of manic freak. Again, you want to assess the situation
first, then calibrate your energy level so it’s equal to or
slightly higher than theirs, then go up to them and open as
you normally would, and run standard game. Stick to the script.

It’s that simple. Remember, we’ve spent years researching what
makes attraction work, and found that it’s really just a simple
set of switches that are hardwired into all of us as organisms.

The setting is largely irrelevant. As long as you have good
calibration and a grasp of the mechanisms of attraction, you
should be able to game up anyone, anytime, anywhere.

Hope that helps, cheers.

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Hey Jlaix,

Thanks for your news letter, one of my favs.

Your clarity is coming through with power since you stopped
drinking booze. Good for you and us.

Hope to meet you one day at an RSD programme. Nice ideas
below about feeling the soul underneath the words and silence.

When I do this people seem to feel amazing. We give them
space to be, we accept them as they are. It creates massive
attraction. They like to be felt and heard.

Thanks for all the great tips. I broke up with my wife two
years ago , and my game was weak as piss. I was so out of
touch, socially out of the loop. Within months of partying,
watching the basics like my own body language, smiling and
tuning into my self inside, girls are coming out of the wood
work!

I’ve slept with lots of “pretty” girls so far. I seem to have
more chemistry there than with the “HOT” ones even though they
seem interested.

I think I lose my frame a bit if they’re too hot. I’m trying
to stay relaxed and playful and have a strong sexual presence.

I’ve come along way in a short time but I still feel like a
beginner, still exciting!

I’m lovin’ it. I’m tell them straight up where I’m at, I’m
free etc. and I’m not going to be owned or possessed by
anyone. I give them a great time in conversation and bed, and
they seem to hold a bit of a candle for me.

The result is I’ve got options that if I want to have sex or
just hang out or whatever I can call up a number of women and
do it. Consequently I now come from a frame of plenty, I am
not needy of anyone.

I don’t look for joy outside myself. This makes me even
sexier. I just try to stay in my body, stay with my energy,
feel myself from the inside.

I am present.

Most people don’t seem to be. They seem to be stuck in their
mind.

So my energy feels stronger, Life is good.

Thanks bro
D

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

This was a huge “inner game” realization for me.

For so long, I had been searching for my other half. The
person that would complete me, complement me and validate me.

That’s why I got into this game in the first place.

I looked and looked, seven nights a week in the bars, the
clubs and the lounges.

I got with scores of women… none ever measured up.

It wasn’t until later that I finally understood I would
never find that other half out there.

Because the other half was INSIDE OF ME the whole time.

At the time that I had that realization, I was at a point
where I thought my game could literally go no higher. But I
was wrong… because afterwards, it exploded to a point
where I no longer needed to exert myself to get women.

The No-Game Game.

This is the point that all aspiring masters of the game should
strive for. Unfortunately, it can’t be attained until you’ve
mastered the nuts and bolts.

But we can get you there in the shortest amount of time
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That’s what RSD is here for. We’re a PROFESSIONAL LEVEL
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It’s something that we take pride in that we’re given props
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Word to the motherland. Let’s take ONE MORE question before
we call it a day, whaddya say?

*** QUESTION ***

Hey Jeffy, loving the news letter, awesome advice!

We’ve actually met in the field a couple times - you gave me
advice about not becomming ’sloppy-club-makeout-guy’…

Anyway, recently I’ve noticed that girls are sort of
expecting me to keep dishing out interesting conversational
threads.

This takes one of two forms, either they go into what Tyler
has described as “Receptive Mode,” where their brain is in
gear to recieve, so after I finish what I’m saying I look to
them for their response and they just have big eyes and a
dumbfounded look on their face.

From here I either have to break her out of her trance to get
her to respond (which I think is counter-productive), or I
end up just looking into their eyes and smiling in the
silence (which hasn’t done any good as of yet).

Similarly, last night I was in set with the girl isolated and
I said “I’m going to tell you something about yourself no
one’s ever told you before…” To which she enthusiastically
replied “Go!”

Here again it was like she was expecting me to provide
entertainment.

My question is, what are some ways to avoid this (assuming
it’s a bad thing)?

If I do find myself here is there anything I can do other
than say “Woah, you are way too demanding, your ex must have
hated that about you… I’m not here for your entertainment
you know. ect.”

With regards to “Receptive Mode,” if I find her in that state,
should I try to break it or just keep her tranced and pile on
material till she’s ready to be kissed?

Your help here is greatly appriciated! Thanks!

-Y.M. (GroundGame)
London

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Yeah man, of course I remember you. From what I could see, you
have some pretty solid game, and seem like a put-together,
intelligent guy.

This is a stage that I think all nascent players go through. I
know for a fact that *I* did.

You become very adept at getting positive reactions from the
girls with the things you say and do, and it can become
addictive, for both you and the girl.

That’s why my guess is that you’re probably staying in
the attraction phase of the interaction for too long. Your
logical mind tells you, “Getting good reaction… woman giggling
and shrieking… continue doing what you are doing…”

Unfortunately, it can reach a point of diminishing returns
where you end up “spinning your wheels” and it goes nowhere
because she goes into “receptive mode,” as you correctly
surmised.

With the dancing tricks and all this stuff… can you blame
her?

Face it. You have the skills to attract. You’re better than
television at this point.

So shift gears earlier into “rapport mode”… make a conscious
effort to do this before her eyes glaze over and she decides
it’s time to kick up her figurative heels and enjoy the
show.

It shouldn’t take longer than 30 minutes tops before you have
sufficient levels of attraction where you can then isolate her
from the peer group and begin to form a more meaningful
emotional connection by employing standard rapport tactics.

Gear down to a 50/50 conversational ratio, where you actively
ask her about her life… we call it “throwing pebbles at her
head.”

The idea is to elicit information that you can work with to
build a more dynamic, interactive relationship with her, as
opposed to just standing in front of her and juggling
chainsaws.

Of course, this is coupled with the simultaneous escalation
of both sexual undertone and physical contact.

Then deal with the logistics and extract. Boom.

Anyway, great hearing from you. Hope to see you at the club
next time I’m in that part of the world.

I’ve sort of taken a break from traveling for a while, but
lucky for you, Tyler’s decided to pick up the slack for me.

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Word to the motherland. Word is born.

Okay, time for me to go put some hemhorroid cream on my face
and brush my teeth with hair conditioner.

Talk to you soon.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS