Improve Every Day, In Every Way

You know, there’s an old saying:

“Change is inevitable… except from a vending machine.”

I bring this up because today I’m in a reflective mood. I’m
thinking about how drastically I’ve changed over the course
of not only my life, but the last five years, and even the
last six months.

One thing that strikes me is the fact that while change
IS inevitable, YOU determine whether that change will be
for the better or worse.

Put another way: your circumstances are going to change
no matter what, it’s up to YOU to decide whether you are
going to be at the steering wheel or somebody else is.

To that end, it’s wise to adopt a mentality where you’re
dedicated to changing your life for the better EVERY DAY, and
FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

There’s another saying that goes, “The only difference
between a rut and a grave is their dimensions.”

Why don’t you take a moment right now to assess where you’re
at.

Is there a particular area of your life that you KNOW needs
to change? Take a concrete step TODAY to make that change
in the right direction.

Even one small thing can be enough to get the ball rolling and
start you down the path to a radically different life.
Take it from me. Four years ago I idly thought to myself, “My
love life is WACK, I need to change this.”

I did an internet search, and hey, here I am today, in a place
I never could have imagined.

So yeah, enough proselytizing for today. Let’s move on to our
reader mail:

*** QUESTION ***

Jeffy:

I was sitting in the front row at your evening course a
couple of weeks ago.

You opened my world by talking about the four women you
have around at any given time, and the roles they occupy.
You mentioned your dissapointment in not getting laid one
night when you went out because that meant you had to go
home and do your girlfriend.

A quick study, I’ve now got a virgin lesbian (until she met
me) who can’t get enough, and I just had an all night power
session, and a couple of late morning re-ups with a hot high
school teacher who doesn’t like lubricated condoms because
she’s already too wet.

Did I mention the perfect breasts?

The two of them have met before (the two women :P). The lez
is cool with me doing others, bringing them home, whatever.
She even jumped me again the afternoon after the late morning
of listening to us go at it.

I haven’t told the teacher I’m doing the lez.

Question: How do I make it cool for the school teacher to
join in or to be ok with the lez chiming in?

Thanks for leading the way,

Bay Area D

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Hah, yes I remember that seminar. Seems like a lifetime ago.

Nowadays, I prefer to have one or two women in my life at
any given time. That juggling of the four girls can get a
little hectic at times. It becomes a full-time job.

Anyway, it sounds as though you are living the dream, as I
was. It’s a crazy “Cirque du Solieil” life when you’re
having these pyrotechnic sexual experiences all the time. You
put in the work, so you definitely deserve it… take the
time to savor the experience.

So, how do you get these girls together?

Many would say, this is impossible. They are wrong.

Back when I was scoring regular threesomes, we wouldn’t go out
looking for lesbians… my girl and I were seducing STRAIGHT
women out at the club.

See, this is a major fantasy for most women, whether they admit
it or not. YOUR role is to choreograph it in a way where it
all goes down smoothly. You are the facilitator.

With that in mind, here’s a possible scenario:

You go out with the schoolteacher for drinks. When you arrive,
lo and behold, who just happens to be there but your good
friend Ms. Virgin Lesbian!

Introductions are made. Drinks are had. The teacher likes
your friend, she is cool. Slowly, the conversation takes on a
sexual undertone amidst all the FUN (key importance here…
it’s always FUN never WEIRD ok?). Playful physical escalation
and innuendo.

The kernel builds in her mind. Could she be making this up, or
does it seem like this could be a threesome happening?

She begins to get excited. This is something she’s dreamed
about, but would never actually do. But now it seems the
circumstances are perfect. There is no judgement from her peers
here. It’s all sort of “just happening.” There is such a
great vibe between the three of you, like you’ve known each
other forever, and she’s getting more and more turned on
at the thought.

Pretty soon, you suggest going back to the house for drinks.

Once there, again, it’s ON YOU to get the ball rolling. They
sit on the bed. You make out with one, then the other. Then
you gently bring their heads together and THEY kiss.

BOOM. It’s ON.

This was a very, very common scene back in my threesome heyday.

Remember, you have to be the conductor, and it has to be
smooth. No jerky movements, it must seem like it “just happened.”

Personally, I’ve tired of threesomes because I found in many
cases it would be lacking a certain intimacy, but that’s
just me NOW.

Change is inevitable.

Thanks for writing, and HAVE FUN!

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Hey Jeff,

Dude the bootcamp was amazing, it was really a liberating life
changing experience for me. Thank you & the guys SO much for
this gift, I feel like a total predator when I go out now.

Sunday I opened like 20 sets all day long, I was talking to
chicks all day & got 2 #s without even asking for them :)
Monday I was stuck at home bcus I have to get some homework done
but I’ll go out tonight & see what I can see.

Like Tim said, I already enjoy this more than sitting at home
watching TV, since TV usually sux anyways.

Tell the guys if they ever come to Miami they have to call me &
we’ll go cruise in my Ferrari & hit sets all day long :)

Thanks so much again for this great gift.

regards,

William

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Ah yes, William.

Dude? You ARE a total predator.

Of course, your experience is not an uncommon one, not uncommon
at all. I hear similar comments from most guys who take the
program.

Learning is state-based. The state you are in at any particular
time is invariably going to have an effect on how much
information you are able to process and digest.

Let’s face it, when you’re doing cold walk-ups on strangers for
the first time, it can be a jarring, unnerving experience.
Under these kinds of circumstances, it can be easy to fall into
a spiral of negativity and frustration.

Add to that the fact that you are being closely scrutinized and
criticized by professionals, and it can be a recipe for
disaster.

We realize this, and that’s why we go to great lengths to avoid
this trap and keep your state sky-high so you get the most out
of the program.

The weekend is an intense experience, for sure, but it’s also a
blast. That’s why I tell my friends I have the best job in the
world. When you participate in one of our live programs, you’re
gonna have a whole hell of a lot of fun.

Plus, you’ll have the chance to build a priceless skillset that
will change the way you are viewed by your peers and allow you
to integrate into any social scene and circle of friends.

Once you realize just how easy, and more importantly, how fun
this stuff can be, your entire mindset changes.

Learn more about RSD Bootcamps by clicking here:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/n/bootcamps.asp

Thanks for writing in, William. Next time I’m in Miami we’ll
floss in the Ferrari for sure.

Okay, who’s next…

*** QUESTION ***

Hi Jeffy,

first of all - THANK YOU very much for the effort of putting
the newsletters together. They really help exploring the
horizons.

I have a quick question: What to do when you get a compliment
from a girl?

Quite often I hear that I’m a really good dancer. It feels
like they mean it - I do dance better then most of the guys
but it doesn’t sound to me like, “Oh I just want to get laid
with you so I’ll say that you’re a good dancer,” it’s more
like: “I love to dance with you, but nothing more so keep
dancing with me.”

Last time it happend I tried to kiss her but I was turned
down. Do you have any ideas how to turn the tables?

I think it should be possible since they are evaluating me,
but I can’t figure out a good response. I tried also with
cocky replies like “Yeah, I know,” but it always brought up
defenses even if I made it funny and turning up a notch with
“And I’m also the most modest person in the world.” They
laugh but the shield remains.

I would be really grateful for your thoughts.

Keep up the good work!

Mark

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

It would seem to me that you’re putting too much weight on
what she says. When I’m in the field, *I* am dictating the
reality, not her.

So what that means is this: if she gives me a compliment,
wow, that’s great. Do I NEED one in order to feel like it’s
okay for me to escalate and move things forward?

Not in the slightest.

That’s EGO PROTECTION, and it’s only serving to hold you back.

At the end of the day, you shouldn’t be waiting for some magical
green light to give yourself permission to move things
forward, at least not in the form of some verbal compliment
from the girl.

It is irrelevant.

What is important is the rhythm and the VIBE. For somebody
who is an excellent dancer, you should have a pretty good
idea of what I’m talking about here.

When the vibe is right, you don’t need any blatant signal
from the girl. You just KNOW.

As far as the correct response to these compliments goes,
I would not even acknowledge them that much. Maybe just smile
and say, “Thanks,” and move along. Remember… YOU control
the frame. YOU are in the driver’s seat.

That said, I suspect you may be relying on your dancing too
much. There’s only so much that you can do on the dance
floor. Yes, it conveys sexuality, fun and value, but at some
point you’ve got to move OFF the dance floor and do some
verbal work. So that may be an area you want to focus on
in the near future.

Remember, dance is only ONE small component of game. It can
get your foot in the door, but then you gotta back it up
with some solid verbal work, unless you’re incredibly attractive
or the woman is incredibly drunk or some other external
factor like that.

Hope that helps.

Keep plugging away at it, and you’ll get there eventually.
Remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day.

When I think of Rome, I am reminded of some of history’s
greatest orators. And when I think of history’s greatest
orators, I think of RSD founder and evil genius Tyler.

Nice segue, huh? Man, I’m full of over the top hyperbole today.

Anyways, just wanted to take a moment to remind you of Tyler’s
new traveling three-ring circus of pickup information, the
renowned SUPERCONFERENCE.

This is a two-day seminar featuring the latest ruminations and
revelations about the game from one of it’s best players.

Maybe you’ve heard Tyler speak before. Maybe you think you’ve
heard it all. But if you have, then you know that Tyler never
rests… he’s constantly WORKING and thinking about new angles
and ideas that nobody’s ever considered before. Ideas that
could rock the game to it’s foundations.

This is the Superconference. Two full days of face time with
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All right, it’s time for me to get out of bed and
make myself some delicious breakfast.

Talk to you soon.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS