With what you’ve learned with me so far, you
WILL be able to get numbers from women. Lots
of them. Now I’m not saying you’ll get the
info for every lady that turns your head -
plenty of women will be unavailable for
various reasons. Some have boyfriends, some
are taking a break, some are just in the
wrong mood - whatever, it doesn’t matter. You
know enough to not let the unavailable women
get you down, affect your confidence, or
change your playfulness. We’re not worried
about them.
And now that you can get the numbers of TONS
of women, my job is done, right?
Wrong. This is just the FIRST STEP and you’ve
got to remember that. Just because you’ve got
a woman interested - and even if you keep
your relaxed confidence going - there are
plenty of places to stumble.
The Instant Date
Like what? This may surprise you, but you
SHOULDN’T take women on dates. That might
sound strange, so I’ll phrase it another way.
If you take a woman to dinner and a movie,
you’re asking to be strung along like a
knitting club’s quilt. You set yourself up
for all sorts of mistakes - which I’ll talk
about in a second - and you’re just begging
for uncomfortable silences and boring
conversation.
Hey, you can make it work. You just make
yourself work a LOT harder.
So what should you do instead? Well, best-
case scenario you create an instant date. You
go from meeting to GOING somewhere, TOGETHER.
This can mean moving from the bookstore to a
coffee shop, one club to another - or often,
to begin, just LEADING a woman from one part
of a bar to another.
Create a World
That’s a POWERFUL move. Say you want to tell
her something (and have something to tell
her). Maybe it can be about something you
want to show her at your house, like an album
or a book (done subtly, this is a great way
to lead to a house call). Take her hand and
LEAD her to a more secluded spot.
Don’t put your hands all over her - you look
desperate and pervy. But once you’ve led her
somewhere, you’ve shifted the world a little
bit - you are in it TOGETHER. Maintain strong
eye contact. Speak in a quieter, confidential
voice (the kind she wants to lean in to
hear).
Set yourself up that way, and it should be
much easier to get yourself moving to another
spot right off the bat. The important thing
is that you concentrate not on getting a
woman to bed, but on moving to the next step.
Once you’ve got a connection, the next step
is changing settings so you reaffirm and
strengthen that connection.
This is good in so many ways. It gives you a
chance to get to know the girl quickly -
which is impressive when it happens quickly,
plus it let’s you figure out if the lady is
worth your time before you’ve invested much.
It feels natural - something even the best
dates fail at.
It’s low-pressure fun - spontaneous, without
expectations or commitments.
It’s just great. Not to mention it allows YOU
to set the pace you proceed at.
Don’t Push
Now, this isn’t something you ALWAYS do. If a
girl is out with her friends you don’t want
to impose - in fact, for that reason you
should always set a time limit when you’ve
started talking with a woman. “I have to get
back to my friends in a few minutes, but
before that…” or “I have to leave soon, but
first…”
If the lady you like seems ready to follow,
then you can say “I’m going to xxx, it’s a
good spot, you should come. SOMEONE needs to
teach you what this city has to offer.” (By
the way, this is a KILLER line if you’re not
a local.)
Oftentimes the woman won’t be able to join
you for whatever reason - could be she’s got
plans already, maybe she doesn’t want her
girlfriends gossiping, she might just be shy.
That’s ok. You can still meet her - but
here’s how you do it.
Don’t Be Ordinary
Don’t ask her to dinner. If possible, don’t
even ask her in advance. A spontaneous
meeting at a coffee shop or going shopping in
an eclectic neighborhood with built-in
conversation is great.
Your call should sound something like this:
“What are you doing right now? I’m about to
hit Java Joe’s, you should come and entertain
me.” “I’m shopping for some clothes, and I’d
like a woman’s opinion. What are you doing
now?”
Make sure you’re going somewhere fun. The
kind of place with strange knick-knacks all
around so you’re conversation can naturally
flow from your surroundings. Why do extra
work when you can let the atmosphere help
you?
Can’t Buy Me Love
THIS is key, and I’ll talk about it again and
again. DON’T PAY. Especially with a woman
you’ve just met. Paying says all the wrong
things.
Women will read it different ways; here’s a
few.
It says “I’m not interesting, so I’m bribing
you to spend time with me.”
It says “I want to prove I’m good mate
material by showing off my financial
success.”
Or the corollary: “I’m insecure, so like a
man with a small penis and a hot sports car,
I’m trying to buy myself some confidence.”
Worse still: “I don’t really know you, but I
think you’re hot so I’m going to try and buy
my way into your jeans.”
Equally cringe-worthy: “I just paid for you.
Now, what are you going to do for ME?”
Oh, let’s not forget the classic: “I’m used
to paying for women so they’ll keep me
company. Feel free to take advantage of that
and bleed me for all I can handle, regardless
of whether you like me or not.”
And of course, with a certain sensitive sect
of ladies, you’re saying “I’m a sexist pig.
Now cook bitch.”
In fact, can you say anything good by paying?
Well, you could be saying “I’m a nice,
generous man.” Great. We all know by now how
sexy that is.
No Early Meals!
This is one of the biggest reasons to avoid
the dinner date, at least to begin. In
addition to creating an awkward social
setting with someone you barely know, you
basically force all sorts of uncomfortable
thoughts about the money involved.
Coffee? Who cares about a coupla bucks?
Shopping? You’re not going to buy her
something, are you? That smells of bribery
worse than dinner, and you’ll just make her
uneasy.
Avoid putting yourself in situations where
the issue of payment comes up, and you’ll
avoid this whole can of worms.
The Seduction Science System,
http://www.seductionscience.com/getthegirlfriend/
examines the dynamics of how to attract the truly
beautiful women you really want - not just
the average ones.
Don’t ask yourself the question if you’re
ready to start having beautiful women in your
life. You ARE ready. Make the commitment
right now and don’t look back for one moment.
Live the life today.
Derek Vitalio
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