High-Speed, High Performance Game

I’m sitting in my bedroom writing this up, and all of a
sudden, I’m struck by the sheer number of candles that are
strewn about the room.

Where the hell did all of these candles come from?

I don’t remember BUYING these candles.

Are they REPRODUCING themselves?

Like, the last time I looked, I had one over on the minibar.
Maybe two.

Now, there’s candle STICKS. There’s candle HOLDERS. There
are candles that SMELL like stuff, and candles which are,
apparently, for “tea.”

Dude, there’s even a LANTERN with a candle in it.

I don’t even USE candles!

Well, I guess when the big San Francisco earthquake hits, I’ll
be well-prepared. Twelve gauge and a bunch of candles.

With that in mind, let me take a big sigh of relaxation and
get to crackin’ on this here newsletter.

Open the mailbag, Jeeves.

*** QUESTION ***

Hey Jeffy,

I’m going to put down as much as I remember about my
questions to you.

For the last few months, I have been feeling very unmotivated.

Since I live with my family, I don’t really have a place of
my own to pull girls back to. Since I can’t pull same night,
I game with less intensity than I should.

Since I’m gaming half-assed, I don’t go as far or learn as
much as I should. Due to the lack of results, I get really
frustrated, which totally ruins my attitude and state.

This negative state ruins my game and the downward spiral
continues…..

When I’m on a date, I typically find out that I don’t like
her or am bored of her, or vice versa. It is an abstract area
of this stuff that I just can not get past these issues.

What do you suggest?

What is your synopsis? How do you pump up your drive and
motivation… because I feel that those two elements are your
driving force… your engine so to speak.

I feel like my Ferrari has been replaced by a Corolla. :(

Sam

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

My suggestion is that you get over yourself and stop acting
like a little chump.

What I mean by that is the frame and the metaphors you are
employing to define the situation are practically ASSURING
your failure.

It’s as though you don’t WANT to succeed. You’ve given up
hope before the game has even begun.

Realize that you have the power to change your state at any
given time, in an instant.

A big part of that is changing the questions that you ask
yourself when confronted with a challenge, and the vocabulary
you use to describe the challenge.

RUINS? DOWNWARD SPIRAL? FRUSTRATED?

This stuff has GOT TO GO dude.

Look, the first thing that I ask myself when confronted with
a challenge or difficulty is, “What’s GREAT about this?”

So, ask yourself, what is great about the fact that you
live with your family and can’t pull there?

It could be that it forces you to come up with creative
solutions and therefore will make your game even STRONGER in
the long run.

Look man, the guys in RSD are frequently traveling around and
staying together in hostels. Do you think we pull these girls
to some filthy, tiny room with ten guys in it?

No way. But you don’t see us complaining and throwing up our
hands in defeat. We get creative.

We go to her place. We go to vehicles. We go to HOTEL ICE
CLOSETS.

We find a way.

You need to get CONFIDENT and MAKE IT HAPPEN YO.

It’s time to take responsibility for your own life experience,
and stop letting it be dictated to you by external
circumstances.

As far as getting bored with the girls, well, this may just be
a natural screening process, and of course you’re not going to
be compatible with everyone.

But at the same time, if it’s something you’re seeing OVER
and OVER, ask yourself:

Is SHE boring, or are YOU boring?

There’s an old saying, “We always condemn most in others that
which we most fear in ourselves.”

Over the years, I’ve found that statement to be startlingly
accurate.

Seriously consider what I’ve said here. On the one hand, it
may come across as a little harsh, but on the other hand, it
should give you hope because it’s saying that the solution
to these challenges lies completely within your sphere of
influence.

Much love… get out there and have fun.

Next player… come on down!

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Hi Jeff,

I have been separated from my wife for about on year and now
finally processing the divorce. I’ve been out of the game for
15yrs and could not remember how to approach and communicate
with a woman that I was interested in.

In my younger years, this was quite easy, and as time went on
and work and wife became #1, I had lost the sense of it all.

I subscribed to your news letter one month ago and while
recently coming back from a long business trip, without
realizing it, I found myself talking and having a good time
with the most wonderful woman I have ever met.

The voice, eye contact and body language was all there. It was
like it was meant to have happened. I did everything right
without even thinking about it.

Then I thought I screwed up. I just lost about half of the
interest in her that I had ten minutes ago. I then realized that
I was more interested in getting my bags. When I turned back to
acknowledge her again, she walked right up to me and crammed her
phone number in my hand, and with that sexy voice said “Call me
when you get down this way again.”

We went our separate ways and the day after I called her. I
explained that I wasn’t going to be just passing through and
call her. I then was able to turn the whole thing around, so
that she was calling me the following day to arrange a meeting
place.

So the date is scheduled for tomorrow and her last comment over
the phone was “I am looking forward to having lunch, dinner and
breakfast with you tomorrow.”

You don’t have to read into that to understand the intent.

Regards and thanks for the review,

ToppHatt

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Uh, I don’t understand… she wants to eat food? With you? What
do you mean?

Haa just kidding… hope it all went down according to plan.

Be all you can be, man… be all you can be.

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You’ll be glad you did… aaaand let’s take our next caller
please… welcome to the RSD Newsletter:

*** QUESTION ***

How are you?

I just joined your newsletter and I am looking forward to
learning this information.

A little about me:

I just ended a 10 yr long relationship and I am a free man
again. I look forward to being in a relationship and settling
down in the future but for now I just want to have as much fun
as possible.

I am in my early 30’s, in excellent physical and mental shape,
can make people laugh with easy, been told I am attractive (I
have already been featured in a world wide Ad campaign for a
major computer company). However I never really played the
dating game and I will like to have as MUCH FUN as possible now.

My initial question is:

In a room filled with dimes, should I just settle for just
talking to just one. Would I seem like too much of a player if
I try to talk to more than one. Can it be done? My purpose is
to get to know as many women as possible because I don’t know
where any one might lead.

I am really selective as far as women so that helps reduce my
options and I am really not a “player” but is talking to two or
more women from one club taboo, ( a regular club of course not
a swingers one…although I haven’t gone to one of those )

Anyway, thanks and I look forward to your response and your
future newsletter.

Mr Laid Back

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Welcome to the newsletter.

First off, whenever I hear this “I’m really selective with women”
thing, I start to worry. Because a lot of the time, guys use
this as an EXCUSE or a RATIONALIZATION for their fear of
approaching or their current failures.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you, but I just wanted to throw
that out there. Also take into account that for a guy who’s
a relative novice at the game, this can hold him back. You
need to get good with women IN GENERAL before you can get that
“one special girl.”

But ok, let’s talk about working the room filled with dimes.

First of all, I’d like to see this magical room. Where the hell
is this? I think in my entire life, I’ve seen maybe two or
three girls I would consider tens. Then again, it’s all
a matter of semantics. But that gave me a chuckle.

Anyway, you’re worried about coming off as a player if you
work several girls in the room. Fair enough.

The thing is, I think you’re approaching this with the wrong
mindset. Some people come to this stuff and they think, “Yeah,
I’m gonna be a PICK UP ARTIST.” And sure, that’s fine, but
keeping with the theme of IDENTITY, I think this one can
be sort of limiting, and moreover kind of CREEPY.

Instead, think of yourself as a guy who is outgoing and socially
savvy.

You’re not some creepy vulture circling the room and landing on
girls.

You’re a cool money guy, who is just incredibly friendly, and
talks to everyone, GIVING VALUE. You’re the life of the party.
You’re there, you’re having a great time, and you just want
to share the fun with everyone there. Talk to everyone, guys
included (although not for too long lol).

Remember, the frame you put out to the world is generally what
you’ll get back. Keep the above in mind, and everything should
be fine.

Besides, a little jealously plotline never hurt anybody.

Let me know how it goes.

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Anyway, blah blah blah, something about candles or something
like that… I like the ones that smell like vanilla.

Seriously though, this is jlaix signing off. Take care, and
we’ll see you next time.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS