Geoff Shoots From the Hip

Today’s newsletter is our special “Featured Coach of the Month”
edition. This time, RSD Executive Coach Geoff steps up to the
plate to give some straight-shooting advice on balance, ego,
insecurity and a host of other topics.

A quick rundown on Geoff, for those of you who don’t know him:

After attending West Point for undergraduate university, Geoff
went to work for Tony Robbins as a business associate of one of
Robbins’ Trainers.

After traveling around North America learning how to produce
amazing results in his life and the lives of others, Geoff
winged with Tyler and other Executive Coaches in the hottest
venues of the infamous Sunset Strip.

Afterwards, it became apparent that Geoff was definitely
someone who would make a high-caliber Instructor. Consequently,
Geoff was initiated into the RSD Executive Coach training
program.

His dedication to the mission, core values, and ideals of the
RSD crew thoroughly impressed Senior Management, and he was
invited to join the Real Social Dynamics team to travel to
Europe to attend a thorough international field training
program to become an Executive Coach.

Now, Geoff lives in Los Angeles and will share with you his
secrets on how to get the women of your dreams.

With his sniper-sharp wit and aggressive demeanor, Geoff
teaches men how to attract using a simple and unique style.

So let me turn the mic over to Geoff… he’s got a lot on his
mind, and I found it extremely helpful. I hope you do too.

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Where’s Geoff at?

Geoff’s right here.

IF YOU WANT SOMETHING IN YOUR LIFE, MAKE A STUDY OF IT.

We maybe have heard about this, but it applies to anything.

You want a better sex life that is totally passionate. Then,
make it a study of it. I know I did this with fitness,
school, dating, health, and now with sales.

The more you study something and hence apply it. The key is
that you must apply it. A typical process goes like this:

learn it –> apply it –> master it –> assimilate it with
what you know.

Most people might apply something but rarely master it. I
used to be skeptical of books written on wealth cause I was
thinking “If this is so easy, then why aren’t more people
wealthy?”

Same reason why there are tens of thousands books written on
how to build a great body, yet very few people ever
accomplish it.

Or, if they do get a great body, then they stop and say that
was a “stage” of their life. Have you seen the people in that
video “Pumping Iron” NOW?!

Hardly any of them kept up their training programs.

I believe that life is about balance and growth. You have
to find the key areas of your life (health, emotions,
relationships, etc.) and commit to growing each one of them
until you die.

That’s it.

You’re growing or you’re dying.

You think you know it all!?! That’s the moment when your wife
leaves you, your body goes to the dogs, your finances fail,
you lose your kids, your business goes under. Plain and
simple.

So one thing that I realized is that how do you grow in an
area. Simple. Set a goal and go after it like a madman!

Then maybe set a goal in another area and go after it. I also
believe that with goals you have to set ones that you know
that you’re going to accomplish. I believe that everyone has
a window of comfort. Some people should NOT set goals every
three months.

That’s right, I said some people should NOT set goals for
every three months. Why?

Because right now their commitment to anything lasts not
three months — but three days!

So, should they not set goals? No, they should set three day
goals. Then, once they do that, they should expand. What’s a
three day goal look like?

Well, it’s usually oriented on actions. Like for the next
three days, I’m going to go to the gym and do this type of
workout.

You need to find your comfort zone and constantly push
outward. And when you do accomplish your goals, you need to
feel good. You need to say to yourself “Yeah, I did it!”

The problem is that people set goals so far outside their
comfort zone that it’s hard for them to stay committed to
them. Hence, the big reason why new year’s resolutions fail.

What if we had a new year every week? Would people be more
motivated?

The same thing with breaking through fear. I’m not going to
give someone a phone call and a list of potential customers
and say, “Hey, go cold call for three hours.” No way, they’ll
freeze up.

So what I’m going to do instead is say, “Here I want you to
make five minutes of calls, that’s it!” Then, keep building
from there.

It’s the same thing with the area of social interactions.
Always lean SLIGHTLY PAST your edge, then set the bar higher.

FIND THE POSITIVES AND DOWNSIDES WITH ANY ONE THEORY.

Yes, that’s right. You need to be conscious of what you are
reading, watching, listening to, and talking to (as a
sidenote even be conscious of the things that you aren’t
conscious of such as TV in the background, etc).

Avoid extremes if possible, so that you can have a balanced
life with all areas of your life in check.

For example, if you get too extreme into health you get
into “raw sprouted vegan organic” eating. That’s right: you
have to eat in that manner or you’re unhealthy.

The funny thing is that this style of eating can easily take
away from your ability to focus on your career or say your
finances. I see a lot of people immersed in health who are
hurting financially (myself included at one point!).

Why? Because where your focus goes, energy flows. So of
course I should point out that, if you’re hurting health
wise, then go after it. But once you get to where you want to
be, then keep doing what you learned from that area and move
on to another area of your life.

BUT!

AVOID PURSUING PERFECTION IN ANY AREA OF YOUR LIFE…

Don’t make your goal perfection, because when you get to a
new level with anything, you realize there’s a level above
where you’re at.

And the funny thing in life, is that we are all secretly
searching for that end point. But you have to remember that
in life you need to follow those who seek the truth and run
from those who claim they have found it.

What that means is that we all, out of our need for certainty,
want some expert to tell us what to do, but the thing is that
we’re all students in life.

So what they say could change in 3 years or 5 years.

Bloodletting at one point was considered THE way to cure
disease. Now we laugh thinking ‘how they could be so stupid?’

Was it that they were stupid, or that they were doing the
best with what they knew? And if they were doing the best
with what they knew, and so are we, then who’s to say that 50
years from now people won’t laugh at us?

NO CEILINGS…ONLY PLATEAUS…

There are no ceilings, only plateaus! That is it. And
remember this, sometimes taking on other challenges will
help you come back to the goal you were working on and it
will seem easier.

Remember, that life’s delays are not life’s denials!

ARE WE GROUP THINKING?

what we do as humans is that we subconsciously want someone
else to lead us! And that inherently leads to “Group Think!”

When you start following a pack, inevitably you set yourself
up for failure. Have the most powerful influential people
been the ones who were in the pack, or stood out from the
pack?

Here’s the interesting thing, is that people’s desire for
certainty and group think affects them even in personal
growth.

Go to any seminar. What you will find is that there are
groupies of that type of thinking, and while I’m sure each
“guru” is grateful, especially for the revenue they get from
the people that buy every single one of their products, they
probably also realize that they too have their own
blindspots.

BE YOUR OWN GURU…

Remember, BE YOUR OWN GURU! That is where your true power
lies.

Now, remember that gurus are like restaurants. You can can
spend all your time eating at one, but do you really want to
do that?

No!

And do you want to eat everything on their menu until you go
to another restaurant? Of course not, then don’t do that with
your own personal growth!

Challenge yourself and get around where it is better. Have
friends of all types, not just the “cool” ones. Because the
one person that you don’t want to be friends with could have
the one tip that will revolutionize your life.

PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE

The reason why NLP was as powerful as it was, yet it hasn’t
worked its way into mainstream America, is because the
founders forgot one thing!

To get good at anything, you need to practice, practice.

You cannot simply reprogram someone’s phobia, and expect all
their problems to be solved. Even, if say the phobia doesn’t
come back, you need to fill that void. Else they’ll develop
another phobia.

You need to teach them to confront their fears and do the
thing which they fear the most.

WHY PEOPLE LIVE MUTED EXISTENCES…

People so often live muted existences because they don’t have
courage.

That is one thing that I respect so strongly about Real Social
Dynamics! Each one of our crew had to exhibit an extreme
amount of courage, and for their hardwork, life will and has
rewarded them handsomely.

Yet, I see it so often that people get stuck in a comfort
zone.

A typical scenario could be making 100K a year, with a decent
level of health, and a relationship that is just ok. And they
never move forward, they never really express what’s on their
minds but they never really get upset either.

So they are in this in between zone. They have in essence a
muted existence, which makes for good worker bees.

But who wants that?

I know no one who is reading this wants that.

Why? Because we each have a potential with us that is so
great, and that we have experienced at times.

That makes us believe that we do have more within us. If you
see some people as they age, they keep reflecting back to
their younger years. It’s because in those years they were
willing to take risks, fail, live crazy lives, take on
challenges that they didn’t think they could have.

Yet, somewhere in life, we stop taking those challenges, and
we stop believe in them ourselves. And that is where we lose
our power. Then we let doctors, the media, advertisers,
friends, family, and religion take over the way we think.

Each one of them leads primarily by fear!

RATHER THAN LIVE A LIFE OF REGRET, UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE
GROWING AT ALL TIMES.

I think very often people live in regret because the perfect
life that had pictured growing up was never fulfilled. Yet,
what they don’t realize is that it was part of a bigger plan.

Remember, life’s delays are not life’s denials. Sometimes you
need to grow other areas of your life in order for you to get
to the next level in your life. That’s kind of like the
businessman who has tried everything (or so he thinks) to get
his business to the next level, and then meets a girl, falls
in love, and then his business shoots to levels he never
thoughts possible.

Sometimes not getting what you want is the best thing that
could have ever happened because then you wouldn’t have
thought that you needed to change.

PEOPLE SOMETIMES WRONGFULLY BASE THE QUALITY OF THEIR LIFE ON
THEIR EMOTIONS…

And people base the quality of their life on their emotions,
when it’s so much more than that. It’s just that you feel the
emotions, but you don’t see the other areas.

So just because you felt particularly well in one area of
your life, does not make it the “best” time of your life. It
really means that you felt the best.

And while there are clues on what to do to experience those
emotions, and we shouldn’t deny our powers to feel absolutely
incredible every single day of our life, we don’t want to
delude ourselves into thinking that when we feel our best
that we are in fact at the best point.

MASTER MEANING ALREADY…

Next, I see a lot of people who confuse meaning. People may
say that you’re not living in reality if you give things a
better meaning. But if you take a closer look at life, you
realize that 95% of the negative things you assumed, never
actually happened.

So you are in fact, living *out of reality.*

The last thing to mention is that a master of life, is a
master of meaning. Look at the Dali Lama, he has mastered
meaning and anyone who meets him claims that they feel
happier themselves after being around him.

WATCH OUT FOR YOUR INSECURITIES, THEY CAN RUIN YOU!

People get so insecure. Why?

Because we all have egos and we’re constantly comparing
ourselves to others to see how we’re doing. Even a guy like
Kanye West admits that he is insecure. A lot of people will
say the one thing about him “He’s an awesome artist, but he’s
kind of cocky!” Why?

Because he is constantly comparing himself to others (my
obvious interpretation).

So, what is the solution. Well, some of the greatest
performers on the planet, all say that rather than compare
yourselves with others, compare yourself with your goals and
the best you can be. And learn to appreciate other people for
being their best.

Guys go out to clubs and get all insecure when they see their
girl getting attracted to another guy. Rather than respect
the fact that guy is an attractive guy and trusting his girl
not to do something wrong.

Can anyone be influenced…

If you’re scared she’s gonna cheat on you, then you got
another story! And yes, with enough persuasion, you get
almost anyone to do anything. But, as an adult, we can remove
ourselves.

Say, we took the guy that founded the Sandler Sales system,
one of the most powerful systems for selling. And we put an
individual in the room, chances are that he could probably
get you to buy whatever he is selling. But, you have to be
adult enough to excuse yourself from the situation.

SO GOING BACK TO INSECURITY…

We will perpetually feel insecure in our lives if we lead our
lives with our egos. If we lead with our egos to become the
“best” (which is a subjective term much of the time), we’re
gonna be in fear that someone is gonna overtake us and we’re
going to have to trash-talk our competition.

The funny thing is that when you do this, you induce
reciprocity. So eventually, people are going to trash
talk you. And it becomes a lower level of existence.

Or, the other thing I’ve seen people with egos do (or I
should say people driven by egos) is that they delude
themselves and others into believing that they’ve
accomplished more than they have.

You’ll hear them have to repeat the same thing over and over
again to maintain this “propped up” state of an ego.

The key is to be your best and to continually refine what it
means to be your best and continually improve.

This is “kaizen,” the Japanese term for continual improvement.

WE ALL NEED EXTREMELY LARGE EGOS…

BUT. We all need to have egos, typically the world is
dominated by men with extremely large egos. So have one and
make it big, have a desire to operate on a worldclass level.

Just realize that if you let that drive your life, then
you’re going to get insecure and do

a.) trash talk your competition,

b.) lie to yourself and others about your accomplishments, or

c.) live in a perpetual state of insecurity.

I give you respect if you read this far because it says a
lot about your commitment to living the life that you desire
or that is possible!

-Geoff

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Jeffy, Executive Coach
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