For Those About To Rock… I Salute You

Guess what time it is?

It’s time for COACH OF THE MONTH!

Yep, once a month I like to showcase one of our wonderful
and motley crew of Executive Coaches, and give him a little
soapbox to stand on and share some of his views on what it
means to have “game,” and moreover how to cultivate it.

This month, we’ve chosen SAM, who’s currently running programs
out on the East Coast of America, and in Toronto, Canada.

But first, a little background:

After winging with RSD’s co-founder Tyler, and demonstrating
his field skills as his wingman, Sam moved into the “Project
Hollywood” mansion to join the Executive Coaches for daily
field training.

During the next few months, Sam traveled with Real Social
Dynamics throughout Canada and the United States on Live
Programs.

While training with Real Social Dynamics, Sam studied every
dating guru and every seduction book in the Real Social
Dynamics Trainers’ library.

In addition, he went out to meet girls for every day for
several months and recorded field reports of his successes
and sticking points.

He then traveled around the world to meet, wing, and train
with every Real Social Dynamics Executive Coach in the company.
Each instructor evaluated his skills.

Through his hard disciplined efforts and with a passion for
building a skillset, Sam became a Real Social Dynamics
Executive Coach.

His ability to demonstrate and teach clients how to approach,
meet, and intrigue women in streets, bars, and other public
places has helped clients transform their social lives and
meet many beautiful women.

He also has a natural skillset to make clients comfortable and
at ease in every social situation involving beautiful women.

Today, Sam contributes the following piece, in which he
salutes those about to ROCK.

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Thanks Jeff.

I’m not gonna lie, learning pickup is a difficult process.
What makes it so hard though is that process of learning it
is very different from anything else you try to learn.

With most activities, you could push really hard and get the job
done even if you’re tensed up, even if you get frustrated or
anxious you could use that energy to propel you to push
harder.

But when talking to a girl or even public speaking, ever
notice that when you start trying really really hard
everything falls apart?

Weird, isn’t it?

The same sort of “hard exertion” you put into things like
lifting weights, sports, studying for classes, or your
day-to-day job, don’t work at all when trying to apply and
learn pickup in the field.

This is because socializing is emotional.

This is also a huge difference that I notice between students
that are total novices and students who have taken previous
bootcamps or have been practicing this stuff for a while.

The more advanced students who’ve been in the field for a
while are simply able to LEARN it better, because they’ve
LEARNED how to; they’ve learned how to prevent themselves
from being locked up and tense when they go out.

Both students are really determined and eager to learn, but
the one that’s had more experience understands a few
fundamental concepts that make a whole world of difference.

They understand that they’ve gotta stay outside of their
heads, have fun, be relaxed and loose, and most of all have
positive energy.

For some of you this may sound like stuff you’ve heard over
and over again, but haven’t successfully applied, to others
these concepts might be totally new and unclear, and to a few
of you that’ve been in the field for a while this stuff is
already internalized in you.

This is all fundamental stuff, but will go a long way in
aiding your progress (if you don’t follow them already).

Think about the rough list below, and ask yourself if you
violate any of them:

(A) TAKE IT SLOW

A while back I had a middle-aged student who’s been shy all
his life and just started practicing pickup, and was
determined to have a threesome off of a cold approach a month
after his bootcamp.

Now I mean that’s great and all, and it’d be really awesome if
he did, but frankly that wasn’t the least bit realistic given
that he just started out. He was making the mistake of being
way too anxious for quick results.

I know he wants this BAD - that’s why he took a weekend off
work, flew over, and took a bootcamp. But he, as well as a
lot of you guys reading, have to realize that this is a long
gradual process.

Obviously, the more work you put into it continuously the
more you’re gonna get out of it; but don’t be so hard-pressed
for quick results or else you’ll be taking it too hard on
yourself and be frustrated and stressed out more than you
should be.

Realize that any guy you’ve met who’s naturally really good
with girls has been unconsciously practicing this since he
was 12 years old!

Really think about this to put things in perspective… and
you’re, what, trying to get a threesome within 1 month???

Set realistic goals and acknowledge the fact that this is a
LONG-TERM thing; it’s going to take time. And no matter how
long it takes, you’re gonna do it.

It takes time to internalize new behaviors, new mindsets, and
reverse your current ones. Just enjoy the ride and appreciate
the small changes you’re making each day. Take baby steps and
set small goals for yourself every time you go out:

Get over your fear of approaching… got that down, cool. Now
learn how to keep a stimulating conversation and vibe well.
Now learn how to create tension. Then physically escalate, and
so on.

Set small goals for yourself every night, so that way you look
at every night as a success regardless of whether you pulled
or not because you’re just starting to learn this stuff.

(B) DISCIPLINE

Have a regimen - commit yourself to a certain number of times
that you’re gonna go out to bars/clubs every week or a
certain number of approaches you’re going to do everyday.

Keep a journal to record your progress, and constantly
critique yourself afterwards to as to constantly learn more
and improve.

Cultivate discipline with this the same way a bodybuilder or
professional athlete would. Have faith in your gameplan and
stick to it. Keep pushing yourself to accomplish successively
more difficult goals, and keep learning from your mistakes.

(C) PICKUP IS A HOBBY, HAVE FUN WITH IT

There’s a fine line between taking it too slow so as to make
very little progress and being so disciplined/determined that
you’re so frustrated and stressed out from not keeping up
with the strict regimen or neglecting other parts of your
life. Be flexible and leave leeway.

When I say “take it slow,” I mean in terms of your perspective,
just acknowledge that this is for the long-run.

For every three nights you go out to practice pickup, maybe
set one “off night” to just hang out with friends and work on
your social circle - or something similar, the point is to
have a life outside of this stuff, otherwise you’ll actually
end up hurting your game.

Don’t be the creepy guy that lurks on his computer all day,
and then drifts away at night in his Matrix-style trench coat
and flame-boots to pickup girls.

If you put all your time into this then every time you go out,
you’re gonna be hard on yourself more than you should be from
not getting results quickly. Realize that “tight game” isn’t
just having cool stories, witty remarks, and playful banter.

Tight game is having a tight PERSONALITY, so cultivate more
and more life experience by engaging in activities other than
just “pickup” to enrich that personality.

So instead of treating this as something that takes over your
life, make it one of many things that are part of a
fundamental transformation within you.

(D) BE SOCIAL and POSITIVE

As soon as you’re inside a venue, hit up a group. No
hesitation. Warm up and get the ball rolling asap. Make it a
goal to follow what we call the “3-set rule”, that is,
getting the first 3 approaches out of the way as soon as
possible so as to get warmed up.

Don’t expect yourself to always feel ON, it’ll come as you
warm up and get yourself in a talkative state. Maybe chat up
guys too, to get yourself in state. Otherwise, you’ll
procrastinate, and may end up not doing any approaches for
most of the night.

Be social and work the room by talking to whoever you come by,
and not letting yourself pass time without socializing.
If you just chode around the bar/dancefloor for 20 minutes,
observing everyone else and ogling at all the girls there,
you’ll get locked up for the rest of the night; and to add to
that you lose social value being that desperate guy who’s
staring at everyone else partying and having a good time.

You wanna be the guy that’s having a blast, the guy who’s got
swarms of people around him, the guy who’s in his own reality
and not procrastinating.

And even while with a girl, have fun with it; bust on her,
tease her, flick her hair off, dance with her, whatever, just
have fun.

If you’re not genuinely enjoying yourself while talking to a
girl, she probably isn’t either.

Positive Mentality - when critiquing yourself, rather than
immediately kicking yourself for whatever mistake you just
made, always ask yourself:

1) What did I do well? and

2) What can I do better next time?

The beauty of this is that it makes you appreciate what
you’re doing well in and acknowledges the progress you’ve
made so far while still looking for room for improvement.

Other than that, I notice that lots of students are really
down in regards to issues outside the scope of pickup, usually
a negative internal dialogue or thought patterns, for this I
highly recommend books by Anthony Robbins and Dale Carnegie.

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The above points are very basic and might seem common sense,
but they’re essential for progressing and are often
overlooked by guys starting out.

This is the same reason why I really respect guys that’ve
made huge leaps in their game. Because of the learning
process, I know that not only is he a superfly pimp, but he’s
also a highly disciplined, determined, intelligent, and an
overall positive guy.

This kind of guy reeks of confidence and success.

I want each of you to reach that.

When I teach students on weekends I see myself a year and a
half ago in their shoes, same goes for the other instructors.

I could put all my heart into jumpstarting your skills in one
weekend, but whether you keep that up post-bootcamp is
entirely dependent on YOU.

It’s like quitting smoking, losing weight, being successful
financially -or successful in ANYTHING in life.

You’ve just gotta step up and do it.

So man up boys, and make your dreams become a reality.

-Sam

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Good stuff, man.

One thing that stands out in my mind is the fact that this skill
set is just that: a set of SKILLS that, if approached in a
disciplined and intelligent manner, can be developed like
any other.

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Here’s what a former student had to say:

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“Sam is an excellent instructor, who is great in voice tone
and body language. The bootcamp was very professional and
gave amazing information.

Last night, in the beginning, I had a couple of bad interactions
and it brought my mood down; however, I woke up this morning
and made 8 cold approaches and got a [hot girl's] email
address.

The best part is that I can now approach any woman. I have no
fears. This is what I wanted. Thanks!”

- Kenneth S. from Anaheim, CA, USA

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Also, be sure to check out our new Foundations Superconference…
a special course taught by none other than Tyler himself. Though
the program lasted only two days, you’ll be thinking over the
material he presents for WEEKS afterwards.

It’s packed beyond full with instantly applicable information
that will take yourgame and your understanding of the social
matrix to the next level. Like the Bootcamp, this is really an
incredible value for the money.

I know you’re curious. Act on that feeling and find out what the
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So that’s it for now. Thanks again for reading our newsletter,
and I’ll see you next time.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS