Dodging Gold-Diggers in the Emerald Panhandle

I just got back from a week-long retreat with about 120 of
my friends and their friends and their friends.

There were a lot of people I knew there, and some who I didn’t,
and of course everyone was mingling about.

Now, whenever I go on something like this, word invariably
gets around about what I do for a living. Sometimes, it
becomes this freakshow, with people whispering, “It’s the
PICK UP GUY!”

However, that really wasn’t the case here, because as it
turned out, I FOR ONCE did not have the strangest job there.

No… there was a guy from the Blue Man Group there.

Whew! Finally, somomebody with a weirder job than me!

It was kind of funny though. I was just there to relax and
unwind, so I didn’t really come off all crazy and outgoing
like I do when I’m playing the field. I mostly sat on the
beach and read books.

My friend told me about a conversation some people had about
me over breakfast one day that was pretty funny, though.

They’re all, “So what’s up with that guy? He’s a pick up coach.
Hmmm… what’s that,” and so on.

Then one guy pipes up with a typically beta male comment,
“Has that guy even gotten LAID since he’s been here?”

At that point, one chick at the table looks down and turns
beet red.

“Oh,” says betaman, “uh… sorry…”

heheheh.

Point is though, people don’t understand that having this
skillset LIBERATES me from a need to show off or impress
others. It’s not someting that concerns me any longer.

I have the skill. It’s ingrained to the core. I don’t even
have to PRACTICE that much anymore.

But just because you know karate, doesn’t mean you go around
kicking peoples’ asses all the time.

Now on program, it’s a whole different story, but hey.

These guys need to chill, cause I bring the pain yo.

Speaking of which, let’s get right to the newsletter.

OPEN YE OLDE MAILBAG!!!

*** QUESTION ***

Hey Jlaix,

I need help with a woman I’ve been gaming.

I work in a huge corporate office building that has about 20
different companies and thousands of people working in it.
I’ve been regularly gaming an older woman using the techniques
I learned from you guys (I took a bootcamp with you awhile
back).

I’ve been focusing on teasing her on the fact that she’s
older and slowly and steadily escalating physically. We flirt
constanly and the sexual innuendo is just insane.

Guys try to pick up on her all the time, but I manage to blow
out most of them with the tactics I learned from you and the
simple fact that I’m the only one that doesn’t supplicate to
her and bust her balls regularly.

Last week, the entire building had a huge Christmas party at
a huge dining hall. It was the BOMB!!! There were babes
everywhere and I used this as an opportunity to practice my
game.

After seeing me float all around the room talking to groups of
girls AND guys. This older chick starts to get jealous.

She pulls me onto the dance floor and we start dancing all
over each other.

She holds both of my hands with our fingers entwined and
starts grinding on my crotch. While I’m fighting to keep my
woody down, she keeps moving in for the kiss, but I CHICKEN
OUT!!!

Since I was surrounded by my co workers and hers, I got self
conscious and punked out.

Even though I didn’t have the balls to kiss her, she still
gave me one indicator of interest after another. She wouldn’t
let me go more than three feet away from her, was constantly
demanding some form of touch from me, and kept throwing all
kinds of sexual innuendo at me.

I could feel myself ‘in state’ the entire night and every
joke and line I threw at people was pure, unscripted gold.

Now here’s my problem.

After the party, whenever I try to game this chick, our
conversations are dull.

I mean BORING!!!

‘What’s up’, ‘How was your day’, that sort of thing.

It feels like I’m no longer ‘in state’ and that’s bringing
her out of state as well. I suspect I did two things wrong.

First, since I failed to escalate at the party, I failed some
kind of chick test.

And second, since I keep coming over to her after the party I
might be starting to convey myself as needy.

Please give your critique on how I’ve handled this situation
and what to do from here.

Thanks bro, and keep up the good work!

Sean

P.S. - I read one of your old newsletters about karaoke, and
decided to sing at this party. I deliberately sang as bad as
possible to show I didn’t care what other people think and you
were right. Karaoke is gold, folks who were too scared to sing
before kept pulling me up to sing with them.

Thanks for the tip man!

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

This is another one of those scenarios where I don’t really
have to explain anything, because you’ve said it all yourself.

First, you failed to escalate when you had the window of
opportunity. This is, in and of itself, often the kiss of
death.

Think about it… this woman put herself on the line by going
all aggressive on you in front of all these people, and you
DENIED HER… IN FRONT OF EVERYONE.

Now, she has to think one of three things:

1. That you are gay.

2. That you are a chode.

3. That you are a gay chode.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with being gay, or even a chode
for that matter. But if you want to get women, then they’re
probably not the ideal things to aspire to.

Now, as far as I can see, you are CONTINUING to be a gay chode
in your interactions with her, which is only driving the coffin
nails in deeper.

Look. Here is my advice.

Stop pussyfooting around, get your butt in gear and go for it!

Next time you see her, turn on that playfulness, bust out that
cocky smile, and get her to go out with you, outside of the
context of the work environment!

This has been staring you in the face the whole time, but you
have frankly, until now, been a little beeeyaach about it.

IT’S TIME TO STEP UP, WIN OR LOSE.

I’d go up, spike her interest with a funny story, then be
like, “Hey, come to the ballgame with me later tonight,” or
whatever activity you have in mind that will give you the
opportunity to get some serious WORK in.

Then isolate back to your place and pull the trigger.

Anyways, I’m sure you already knew this. But I feel a need to
berate and smack you up so you’ll TAKE ACTION.

DO IT. NOW.

End of story. Next caller:

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Wow you guys got some powerful stuff going on…

Helping out a fellow brother evolve from a chode into a
mackdaddy within 3 days… my props.

Anyways where do I start. Back in my “chode days” I was a
nice little complimenting, butt kissing, gift buying dude.

Thanks mom.

Anywho, I’ve always been a good looking guy but never would
be able to pull the girls that I knew I should be pulling. I
guess I didnt have a high self esteem.

Dated this girl at 19. Wow I thought this was it. This is as
good as it will get. I mean yeah she was damn cute, but she
had this energetic personality that got me tangled up.

I was whipped out of my mind!

Was crazy about this girl and she was too at a time until I
gave in. Went on a long distance relationship with her and I
became obsessive and needy not having her around and
eventually she ran away and was dating some dude a month
later.

Wow, what a mindblow. Would sit in bed feeling sorry for
myself all day long. Didn’t even want to wake up as sleeping
took all my problems away.

This lasted for months.

Then one day I woke up and I made a promise to myself that I
was gonna make myself change, do whatever it takes to make
myself the most attractive guy and pull the most beautiful
women.

I did my research and found you guys.

It all made sense… why the heck didn’t I know this before!

Whatever, that was the past, you got to learn the hard way
(or at least in my case), and you got to look at the positive
outcome of it. I wouldn’t be the man I am today if that hadn’t
happened to me.

I was a slow learner, and still I’m not even close to the
level I want to be but I know it’s there.

I can taste it and it’s mine for the taking, I just need to
take baby steps each day and commit to my goals.

I’m at a level where I can pull numbers pretty well, but when
I get to the elite girls I freeze up a bit.

NO WORRIES tho.

I know if I work at it I will be there soon.

Anywho, you guys are awesome. I just wanted to say thanks.

Oh and anyone who reads this, be smart and do something
useful with your money. These guys know what they are talking
about. Don’t waste your time with that nonsense on msn “top
10 ways how to get in a woman’s pants.”

Well anywho, thanks again fellas. Take it easy

*A*

Miami

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Be all you can be, man… be all you can be.

Speaking of which, if YOU haven’t considered taking
one of our live in-field programs yet, now’s the time.

Of course, this lifestyle’s not for everyone, I’ll understand
if you’re not comfortable meeting more beautiful women that
you have the time or inclination to handle.

But if you want to achieve success greater than even that of the best
“naturals,” then you’ll definitely want to look into an RSD
Bootcamp. The program is packed wall-to-wall with field tested
information and the tools you’ll need to achieve your wildest
dreams.

I know, because it happened to me. Four years ago I was a
serial monogamist, who at the age of 26 had slept with a
mere six women.

Today, I’ve been with strippers, had menege-a-trois with dozens
of beautiful girls, done things that just a short time ago
seemed so fantastic as to be unattainable. And now, here I am,
living a life I once thought existed only in fiction.

I owe it all to the RSD crew. Together, over the past several
years, we’ve busted our collective ass to develop nothing less
than the most comprehensive, effective and consistent way to
meet, attract and seduce beautiful women any time, any where.

And during that time, we’ve also developed the most
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You’ll be glad you did… aaaand let’s take our next caller
please… welcome to the RSD Newsletter:

*** QUESTION ***

Hi Jeffy,

Regarding any questions some of us might have,there is one
major issue for me that just won’t go away, at least in my
mind.

One hang-up of mine is the moment after you’ve established
some rapport and she’s interested enough to ask, “So what do
you do for a living?”

The whole job thing is my one stumbling block because I don’t
really have a “job” and don’t need one, but would like to say
something that’s better than, “Well, let’s just say that I’m
independently wealthy and roam the planet looking for
playmates.”

Of course, that’s not a bad line to toss back at someone you
don’t really even know, but it’s also not very specific about
how you got to be this free-bird who suffers from wanderlust
in the first place.

I mean, what do you say to a woman who wants to know what you
do for a living without having to spill out your whole damn
story?

I’ve thought, “Just tell her you’re a gold-digger and see how
she reacts?”

In fact, trading is my occupation, and gold has been one of
those commodities which can be kinda sexy. What happens when
she tells me that she’s an environmental ‘greenie’ and thinks
that the mining industry is destroying the planet?

You see Jeffy, I like women who are ‘green’ but my occupation
“appears” to go contrary to what they believe.

This is where I’m stuck, mate.

In any case, how can you dodge the issue without coming across
as someone who’s trying hide something when there’s really
nothing to hide, and when it’s something that’s really none of
her business anyway?

Truly now, this really is my issue, and it has kept me from
interacting with women I’d like to know, but I also know that
sooner or later in the course of the conversation she’s going
to pop the one question that always sends me off on a
tangential improvisation.

Just label me, “Dodging Golddiggers in the Emerald Panhandle”

J. C.

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Well, let me start by saying I think you’re putting waaaay
to much emphasis on this whole thing. It’s really not that
big a deal.

I mean, if you think YOU have challenges with telling people
your job, imagine what I go through.

See this issue’s intro.

I mean, come on, “what happens when you get a hippie who
objects to mining?”

Really, how frequently do you wager this is going to happen?
Maybe ONCE in a thousand interactions?

Look. You said yourself that there’s nothing to hide here. As
long as YOU believe in what you’re doing, and you are a
happy, fun, well-rounded person, it really doesn’t matter.

Are women sometimes put off at first when they discover what
it is I do for a living?

Oh yeah. There are a lot of misconceptions at first, and a lot
of assumptions.

But then they see how absolutely passionate I am about it, how
much fulfillment it gives me to share what I know about
life with my students, and that all goes away.

They can see that I’m not another worker bee drone who is
plodding through life just trying to SURVIVE.

I’m LIVING.

Now, there IS one valid concern here… that the woman is
using this as a test to show she can SCREEN you out, and to
see how you are going to respond to that.

Note that this isn’t always the case, and a lot of times, it’s
an innocent question that anybody would ask in the process
of getting to know one another.

But yeah, sometimes it is a test. And in these particular
instances, it’s good to throw out a cocky challenge (”guess,”)
or an inane non-sequiter (”I’m an ass model,”) to show her
that you aren’t going to fall into her frame.

Aside from that, however, I believe you’re making a
mountain out of the proverbial mole-hill.

Relax, man!

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Anyways, that’s it for today. Keep on rockin’ in the free
world, and I’ll talk to you shortly.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS