Discovering your Powerful Sexuality

Hey now.

Had an interesting and illuminating experience the other
night while conducting a bootcamp.

Side note: always avoid alliteration.

I’d sent my wonderful student in to chat up a couple of ladies
sitting poolside with this classic opener:

“Hey… I like salad.”

So of course, they open right up (his body language and vocal
projection were on-key) and I roll in shortly thereafter.

So I have him converse with the “hotter” one, as usual, while
I occupy the friend.

Now, in most of my approaches, I can spark a base level of
attraction pretty quickly. But sometimes, something takes place
that just makes it EXPLODE like a BOMB. And that’s what happened
here.

I’m just rambling on, like the Led Zeppelin song, and it’s going
relatively well, nothing special. But then I comment on the
Sanseveria Trifasciata plants in the garden.

The chick goes ballistic. Turns out she’s a total plant nerd.
So am I. In fact, I used to grow roses and enter them in shows.
I can reel off the latin names of most common plants, as well
as their nutrient, light and climate requirements. Long story.

Anyway, this COMMONALITY changed a somewhat routine, mundane
interaction into a supercharged one crackling with attraction
energy. We were making out shortly thereafter, giving the
student the perfect opportunity to isolate his girl with a
moonlit walk on the beach.

Perfect.

So I just wanted to throw that out there… it’s an old classic.
Look for and explore commonalities with the woman you’re
interacting with, and before you know it, an ordinary
conversation can turn EXTRAORDINARY.

Anyways, let’s do the letters thing. Here we go:

*** QUESTION ***

Hey, Jeff,

I appreciate your take on the game called life, so here are
some questions regarding enhancing my personal sexual flow
(I meant flow of beautiful women into and around my bed; not
some kind of medical problem):

1. I’m an artist who sometimes (about once a month) has an
art show in the city where I live. They’re okay places to meet
women… who are 50+ and/or married (not my desired
demographic). I hate loud places, and I don’t drive (I
either take the bus or get a ride to my day job). Got any
ideas as to how I can maximize my hot-girl-to-self ratio
(1,000:1 would be a good start)?

2. Another easy, I’m sure: everybody you mention at RSD has a
handle/call-sign. Is this to protect the identity of your
operative player personnel, does it add to your mystique when
a girl might know you for a year (more?) before she learns your
real name… or is it just for fun?

Thanks in advance.

-Tracer

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Okay. So you hate loud places. Fair enough.

But I have to wonder WHY.

Is it because you don’t want to damage your ears? Or because
your vocal projection sucks?

If it’s the latter, then that’s something you’re really going
to have to rectify, because vocal projection will make or break
your entire game.

But let’s assume it’s the former. There are plenty of awesome
lounge type venues you can go in any major city.

I’ve probably been to most of them. Try some of the classier
hotels. They’ll usually have upscale lounges that don’t BLAST
techno music at the decibel level of an F-16 taking off.

Your letter sounds like it’s filled with EXCUSES to not go
out and approach women. I don’t drive, I hate this, I hate
that, etc.

Like my old buddy Jackass used to say:

Excuses are like assh0les. Everyone has one.

I used to gripe and complain all the time about how San Francisco
didn’t have any super beautiful chicks. I realize now this was
merely an excuse to NOT approach them because I was fearful.

Once I got over that fear, I began to see them EVERYWHERE.

This is related to something called Reticular Activation
Systems, which I won’t go into but you can look up easily on
the internet.

Anyway, think about what I’ve said. Blast those excuses and get
out there man. Take a cab and go to a lounge.

As for my “nickname,” it’s the initials of my name. Yes, I’m
the NINTH.

Why do we use these? Because we’re DORKS.

Next caller.

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Hi guys,

Last weekend I took the RSD Bootcamp in London with Tux as my
coach, who I have the highest praise for. I want to give you
a flavour of my experience.

Who am I?

Well, I’m no longer a kid - I passed 40 a few years ago. I’ve
been married and divorced and have never appreciated my power
with women.

I’ve no problems talking to women I know or have been
introduced to, I’m witty, well-read and well-travelled, but
only once or twice (literally!) have done a cold approach
with dire results (in my mind).

So one barrier I needed to break down was the cold approach.
Then…well, having crashed through that one it would be
interesting to see what else came up. Read on…

The format was 1:1 coach-to-student ratio. We all met up in
a quiet bar for a pre-bootcamp briefing. This was inspiring
in itself.

In essence, we agreed to be LOUD and to have fun, to know that
the party is ‘here’, to do what our coach told us with no
questions/clarification or thought!

Any questions could be dealt with AFTER the approach otherwise
they would be an excuse for inaction and the old ego would
start its negative chatter robbing you of your power.

We walked over to Leicester Square (how lucky are we to have
such a place??) maintaining our ‘BE LOUD’, ‘HAVE FUN’ state.

My coach, Tux, spotted a couple of girls looking at a menu
outside Hard Rock Cafe. “GO” he said.

I went. Tux watched from a a few feet away while pretending
to talk into his phone.

“Why did you eject from the set?”, he asked me. “They were
attracted to you!” Ummm…and I gave a heap of weak reasons.
“Always close!”, he said.

He also gave me some excellent feedback on my body language.
Stuff that I never knew I did. Hands in pockets, rubbing my
nose, not standing straight etc. etc..

All good. But, hey, I’d just doen my first cold approach and
opened my first proper set! And I did great and it felt
great.

Then I got to this HB8 who was touting for a club. She was
American, blonde with perfect teeth. I used the “Do you know
anywhere good to eat round here?” opener which is nothing but
a reason to start chatting.

We spoke about why she is here and that she doesn’t have a
visa etc.. I told her that she needs to meet a handsome
English guy and do a fake marriage to get the visa.

“What sort of guy are you looking for?”. She told me. So I
handed her my phone and said “That’s me. Give me your number
and we’ll talk about this later.” And she gave me her number.

Man, she gave me her bloody number…this cute as hell
American babe!

After this, we went to the club. Tux was brutal - that was
just as I had asked him to be and just as I needed.

He wouldn’t put with any of my whining about “I was tired”,
“I don’t fancy them”, “there’s a big bloke in that set”,
“yeah but what do I say?” etc. etc. etc.

I think we got the three-second rule down to one second! I
valued his feedback enormously and his commitment to my
progress.

He gave such valuable advice. How to stand. How and when to
sit down. How to use space. And much much more…

I ended the program completely exhausted. But changed.

See, I have ‘nice guy’, Mr Considerate in spades. But that’s
just been unbalanced all my life. And that is very
unattractive to women.

What I discovered is that I have another side to me. A side
that is powerful and sexual and that women find very exciting.
A side that fills me with confidence and joy!

Remember, on Friday night before I started I was a guy who was
scared of talking to women! And at the end I had started to
feel, to realise what I truly was and to ‘get’ it.

There’s a long way to go. This is only the beginning. But I
know now what’s possible. And I know that this will have a
significant impact on the rest of my life because my lack of
appreciation of my own power didn’t only show up with women.

JP, London

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

I’m always thrilled to hear that Tux is keeping up the good
work across the pond. Now you’ve taken the first steps toward
success, and I know you’ll enjoy the process of achieving it
just as much as the rewards themselves.

The point is, it’s all about the journey, and I don’t mean
the best rock band ever.

What will YOUR journey be like?

For the most part, I’ve been home-schooled in this stuff,
but I’ve had the good fortune to hook up with some of the
brightest minds in pick up today.

Together, we’ve put together our own school, with a
curriculum covering everything you could possibly want to
know about the game.

Enroll in one of our live programs, and you’ll get a crash
course in this stuff that will give you a MASSIVE jump-
start on your path to mastery.

During Bootcamp, clients who want to accelerate their
learning curve will learn how to get some of the most
beautiful women with these Instructors as your personal
coaches and wingmen during a weekend program customized to
your individual needs.

To learn more about RSD Bootcamps, follow the link below:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/n/bootcamps.asp

Go ahead, I’ll wait.

Ok, we’re back! Next caller:

*** QUESTION ***

Hi Jeffy,

I’ve heard that guys who are “pick up challenged” are shy,
have repressed backgrounds, and have been bullied. All the
above apply to me! (My dad was a “fire and brimstone”
preacher).

So even at 50ish, and divorced, I’m still a teetotaler and
veggie! Is this a particularly greater hurdle?

I’m NOT scared about hanging out in bars and clubs–I guess
I can always order “virginized” drinks and veggies. But
will that turn off chicks? What happens if I manage to ask
the supermarket clerk “out for a drink?”

Ironically, I seem to have a knack for striking up
conversations with quite beautiful women in malls, metrolink,
etc. Most of the time, they’ll indicate they really enjoyed
talking to me. Sometimes I even ask for a phone # and they’ll
give it.

Can a shy, repressed, teetotalling, but non-judgemental,
open-minded “prude” (whose endeavoring to become sexually
liberated) make it in today’s partying scene?

Richard

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Richard, the good news is that this is NOT a problem.

The bad news is you’ve got a lot of messed-up self-talk and
limiting beliefs going on here. But that can be changed.

Look, the thing you’ve got to realize is that most people are so
self-absorbed that they can barely cross the street without
getting hit by a car. What makes you think that they’re gonna
care or even NOTICE that you don’t drink?

It’s not a big deal. If this is something you currently believe,
consider why you’re thinking like this. You’re making EXCUSES
to NOT approach. Might be time to reframe things.

The bottom line is this: if you BELIEVE it’s a problem, then
it IS a problem. You inevitably move towards that which you
continually focus on.

By focusing on this idea that girls are going to give you a
hard time because of your lifestyle, then that basically
ASSURES that that’s exactly what will happen.

Instead, focus on all of the incredible things that are POSITIVE
about your life. How you are HEALTHY and VITAl and ENERGETIC
as a result of your lifestyle. How you help kids learn and
grow, etc.

You have a lot to be GRATEFUL FOR and HAPPY ABOUT. Focus on
sharing those gifts, and forget about all this nonsense.
You’ve written it out, now let it go.

Now get your ass out there in the field and get to work.

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So yeah, I’m gonna call up that plant nerd chick tonight. We’re
going on a romantical date to the botanical gardens. I plan
to bang her betwixt the bromeliads.

Always avoid alliteration.

See you next time.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS