Attract Women by Being Unpredictable

We’ve mentioned this a lot, but now the hammer drops. You
CAN’T BE BORING! There is no greater sin when you’re trying
to attract beautiful women.

In fact, this is the number one cause of nice guy frienditis. It’s
not that women don’t like nice guys - oftentimes those let’s-just-
be-friends have some sincerity in them - it’s that nice guys
aren’t exciting. They’re predictable.

And let’s face it - almost everyone will pick exciting over
pleasant every time. Guys too. How many sites are set up
devoted to the hotness of Laura Croft? How many are set up
exalting the attributes of Jane Austen heroines? Have you ever
even had the patience to finish a Jane Austen novel?

I rest my case.

Nice guys often wind up in this atrocious position where they do
everything “right” and his object of affection WANTS to like
him… but there just is no spark. She wishes like hell she could
dig such a sweet man who would treat her as well as anyone…
but she just can’t. Her head is all into you, but her heart is
somewhere else.

Her heart is seeking adventure. Now, this doesn’t mean that
you have to go cliff diving or bungee jumping on a first date (at
least not with all women), but it DOES mean you can’t be
predictable. You can’t bland and inoffensive - because that path
is so obvious she’ll know what you’ll say and do five minutes
before you do it.

How long can you watch a painfully formulaic movie before
getting annoyed - especially if there aren’t any explosions?

Exactly.

Now, jerks aren’t pleasant people. This isn’t a positive - in fact,
it’s the reason they rarely find themselves in long-term or stable
relationships, you can only put up with that shit for so long - but
what jerks ARE is unpredictable. There are only a few “right”
things you can do in any situation; the “wrong” things you can
do are basically infinite.

That makes time spent with jerks interesting and exciting - you
never know what will happen next. Because the situations
usually turn ugly, you don’t stick with a guy like that for too long
- but women end up with a major dilemma, because the
excitement is like an addictive drug. When it comes to body
chemistry, this is LITERALLY true.

Women who find themselves EXTREMELY addicted to this drug
are the ones who might wind up in an abusive relationship. They
know they shouldn’t be there - but they need that chemical fix.

I don’t know about you, but my aim in life has never been to be
an abusive asshole. Even as a young kid I recognized that
pricks got more women than they should, and that I would
probably increase my success by following that pattern - but I
couldn’t bring myself to do it. Deep down, most of us ARE nice
guys.

What to do?

How about isolate the attraction jerks provoke, without all the
other bullshit?

This is where you relaxed playfulness comes in - if you are
playing in a fun way, you aren’t being predictable. You aren’t
saying what everyone expects - saying what ISN’T expected is
one of the major keys to humor.

By extension, if you’ve got a girl laughing, chances are she
didn’t expect what just happened. You give her that excitement
while SIMULTANEOUSLY creating a pleasant atmosphere.
That’s a rare combo. A double-combo knockout punch, if you
will. (Note: don’t punch her - unless you’ve got a safe word set
up beforehand. Note for idiots: don’t take S/M jokes literally.)

That said, the lady is going to test your character. Lots of
times, this will come in the form of demands and requests -
both direct and indirect. You want to keep the pleasantness,
but you don’t want to give up any machismo or become
predictable by instantly caving into her wishes. What to do?

DELAY. This is another key word. It applies to all sorts of
aspects of dating, but for now we’re going to focus on
spontaneity. Write it down somewhere in your journal.

Then write it down on 10 more pages, at the top, in bold letters.
Go ahead and get creative. DELAY.

What do I mean by delay? Let’s say you’re going to dinner, and
your lady mentions how much she loves sushi. Don’t say
anything, and DON’T go there that night.

But go three weeks later. It shows thoughtfulness - and that
you were listening - without any of the wimpy characteristics
usually associated with such displays. Plus, she knows not to
expect where the night will lead, and not to try and guide it.

She talks about how she loves the beach. Wonderful - take her
there when she least expects it, like a Friday night after her
work ends and spend a moonlit evening enjoying the waves
before swimming the next day.

You get the idea. Pay attention to what she likes, but file it
away. Don’t immediately try and fulfill her desires - it gets to be
like the Twilight Zone about the gambler who never loses and
realizes he’s in hell. But go ahead and fulfill them on YOUR
schedule, at unexpected moments.

This is one of the easiest lessons to learn, but also one of the
easiest to let slip when crunch time comes. A little whining and
most men lose their heads and do whatever is asked of them.

Better is to make it clear that you don’t have time for whining -
nicely but firmly - and over time let the lady learn she will get
what she wants - when YOU want to give it to her.

By the way, all of this, it counts about a thousand fold when it
comes to sex. Few things are sexier than a man who doesn’t
lose it at the sight of an exposed breast. If you can control
yourself and DELAY satisfaction until you’re ready to give it
over, the ANTICIPATION becomes more powerful than ACT
ALONE usually is - making the act all the more powerful when
it comes.

Yes, I’m still talking about sex. But I’m talking about all the rest
of it too. DELAY. Really. Trust me. DELAY.

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Your Friend,

Derek Vitalio