A Pocket Full of Hotties

I just finished reading an excellent book which my friend
recommended to me. It’s an old best seller, and you may
be familiar with it… “Zen and the Art of Motorcycle
Maintenance: An Inquiry Into Values.”

I was expecting it to be a light and comedic read, by the
seemingly humorous title. Instead, it was an extremely dense
exploration into philosophy that took me by surprise.

I plowed through it while I was on vacation, and came away
feeling renewed and with a deeper appreciation for the
spiritual side of life. It dovetailed perfectly with the
recent lifestyle changes I’ve made, and I’d recommend it
to anyone.

What made it even more timely was that I was getting close
to the end of the quarter and it fulfilled one of my 90-day
goals in the area of spirituality: to read two books on the
subject.

I feel that balance is an extremely important concept in our
lives, and to that end, I’m constantly assessing my strengths
in various areas to ensure that I’m not paying too much
attention to any particular one at the expense of the others.

For example, leading up to my recent vacation, I had been
focusing almost exclusively on physical well-being… going to
the gym three times a day, spending ridiculous amounts of time
calculating my macronutrient ratios and the like.

Sure, I looked great without a shirt on at the beach, but
other areas were beginning to suffer. Fortunately, I anticipated
this, and right after the vacation took immediate steps to
correct it.

So yeah, BALANCE. Something to think about.

Now that that’s out of the way, let’s go ahead and get started
with our magical newsletter by taking some reader mail.

*** QUESTION ***

Hi Jeff,
I have kind of a (condensed) two-part question.

Firstly I am having a lot of trouble keeping up my motivation
and confidence while doing some field test after reading a
lot of theory as a friend got me into this whole scene.

We are the only two in our friendship group that seems to
lack that part of the brain that makes others good with
women, and others aren’t willing to share trade secrets :).

Is there any advice you can give me on accelerating my
learning curve before all the failures and life get to me.

I.e. some schools say to go out four nites a week and
approach 12 girls each nite but I can’t go out that much and
haven’t even got past 3 or 4 approaches in a night.

Also I live in Australia and although it’s great to see the
boot camps here now, I was wondering if the superconferences
will be coming here soon?,

As I definitely need some extra help.

My wing (sort of as we both suck) plans to go to a boot camp
so do you think our combined experience, if there is a
supercon in oz, will help our combined efforts also?

Best Regards
Joe

Thanks, any help is greatly appreciated.

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Well, you know, it all depends on how good you want to get at
this stuff, and how quickly you want to progress.

Let’s say you wanted to learn to ride motorcycles.

Do you want to be good enough so you can zip around town, and
maybe make the occasional road trip, or do you want to get
to the level where you can compete in major races?

How fast do you want to get to that level?

Obviously, being a major competitor in serious racing is going
to take a MASSIVE AMOUNT of time and dedication, far more than
that required for a basic recreational skill level.

It’s the same with this skill set.

Some guys want to be the next Casanova and get stripper
threesomes. Others just want to have a base level of competence
and have a modicum of choice when it comes to their interpersonal
relationships.

Lemme tell ya, I had to throw myself into this thing heart
and soul for nearly four years to get to the “elite” level.

That’s going out and doing massive approaches, seven nights
a week, FOUR YEARS. Doing INSANE things to push myself,
trying EVERYTHING IMAGINABLE.

I’ve crashed and burned more than you can imagine bro. Don’t
come to me talking about “failure getting to you,” because
if ANYONE should have let failure get to him, it’s ME. heheh.

I slogged it out in the face of massive rejection at first
because I was going to get this handled NO MATTER THE COST.

I was HUNGRY. It’s funny, because in light of what I said
about balance above, it wasn’t necessarily HEALTHY, but I
think periods of UNBALANCE can be helpful at times to achieve
particular goals.

In any case, you just have to determine WHERE you want to
be and realistically assess HOW BAD YOU WANT IT.

Answering these two questions will give you a good idea of
what you can expect long-term.

As far as the length of time that it will take to get there,
well, again, that is all dependent on you.

When guys take a bootcamp with me, I always tell them that
they should go out AT LEAST three times a week if they want
to get good.

Think about it. If you went to the gym and worked out once or
twice a week, well hey, that’s certainly better than NOTHING,
but it’s not going to get you RIPPED anytime soon.

And going out doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to hit
the club for five hours straight. It just means setting aside
some time to do approaches. You can even do them on campus
between classes!

So yeah, in summary, it’s time for a reality check.

HOW BAD DO YOU WANT IT?

Be honest… you owe it to yourself.

Thanks for writing.

Oh, and with regard to your query about the Superconference
coming to OZ, I’m pretty certain that’s the case, you should
just check our site for the details.

If you DON’T know what The Superconference is, well,
I gotta tell ya, it’s totally radical yo!

It’s the brainchild of my buddy TYLER, the Executive Producer
of RSD. He’s back, and he’s developed this hot new program to
put you on the game.

As he travels the globe, Tyler will stop in a major metropolitan
area near YOU to deliver this one-of-a-kind two-day seminar.

This is like backing up a dump truck filled with the latest
epiphanies and strategies from one of the greatest minds in the
game, and having it dumped straight on top of your head.

This isn’t armchair theory, either. This is the stuff that
Tyler, arguably a bona-fide GENIUS when it comes to this game,
has developed over the course of YEARS spent in the field, honing
his skill-set to superstar proportions.

Imagine TWO FULL DAYS of juicy secrets and material that’s
immediately applicable, and you’ll begin to appreciate what
this program’s all about.

To learn more and see when the Superconference is coming to
your area, visit our site:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/n/seminars.asp

PURE RAWK!

Ahem… next caller.

*** SUCCESS STORY ***

Hi there,

I love your newsletter and need some advice on a girl that
has been bothering me, I need some definitive answers as I
have been getting some confusing advice.

Right, I’ll set the scene:

I went to Tiger Tiger night club in London on NYE with about
10 guys I know.

I opened a group of six HOT HOT Italians at about 10.30, this
is an extract from my field report:

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The First group I aproach in the bar is a group of 6 really
godamn fit Italians sitting at a table in the rsetaurant.

I smile at them from across the room and have strong eye
contact with one, she smiled really nicely back so I
aproached.

I open with ‘Hey you guys look friendly. Do I look gay to
you?’

It is imediately evident that their english is not nearly as
good as I would like so I shift down into a cocky mock
’speaking to a foreigner’ type voice.

‘Who—- speaks—-best—– EEEEENGLISH?’

THEM: *laughing*

They point to one of the girls, I bust on her being clever
and a geek in school, they laugh but tell me to slow down, it
was hard to comunicate game to them so I smile and say I will
see them later.

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Later on I encounter them again, at about 1.30am
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My pal Sven aproaches two girls sitting at edge of the
dancefloor, I come in to wing him, it is two of the Italians
from earlier.

(let me just describe them for you. One was about 22 and
about 5′11″ with her heels on, had a GREAT figure and that
really nice kind of smoky Italian girl face!

The second one…WOW!!!!! She was about 21 and much more
petite than her friend and had an awesome body, SHE WAS SUPER
HOT!!!!)

Ok, back to the set:

They say, ‘Hey I bet you dont even remember us’ I steal thier
frame and turn it back on them.

“Me? I bet you are too DRUNK to remember me”

I talk for about four seconds then it’s ‘Ok, we are going to
the dancefloor!’ from me.

I grab their hands and lead them out onto dancefloor, they
BOTH start really physically grinding me and touching me and
I am getting STARED AT by half the dancefloor. They are all
over me, I take it in turns to grind them, the other one
usually behind me.

Within about 2 minutes I am making out with the tall one
while still grinding both of them, I stop makingout with her
and transfer onto the super hottie as I can see she was
starting to feel like a goosberry.

I have now set the script for the night, that we are ALL
going to have fun together.

I anchor the super high levels of attraction they are feeling,
to me twirling them on the dancefloor, I later used this to
rekindle attraction.

I makeout with each of them a couple of times, then push
their faces together, they reluctantly kiss at first then get
a little more passionate.

I am starting to feel that the tall girl is the dominant one
and if she wants me she will have me over her friend,
obviously I want the friend so don’t really know what to do.

They ask me where I am staying tonight, I say hours away (I
didn’t want to drag them all the way to Docklands on a night
bus).

I ask them the same, they say a hotel 10 minutes away.

The dancing seriously escalates until I have them pinned
against the wall together, alternately making out with one
then the other.

The super hottie starts biting my earlobe and neck, I pull
back her head by her head and bite her neck, she then has her
tounge IN my ear(?!).

I say we should get out of here, they say where, I can’t
bring myself to say your hotel, so I say something like ‘I
dunno, to get some food’ (should have asked to go have a
drink in their hotel)

Some ugly chode interupts trying to take one of my girls,
figures I have too much or something?! I blow him out with,
‘Hey man, take these girls off my hands for me.’

They get all over me and are like ‘NO! NO!’

We don’t go, but it is still escalating like crazy, they are
girl coding all the time and I can tell that the tall one has
won but I dont want to lose the other because I want to do
them both (damn I’m ambitous) or just hot one.

So I keep the hotter one involved and it gets super
physical, I push their heads together but they seem unsure,
but when I join in they are VERY keen, THREE WAY
MAKEOUT!!!!!!!!!! woohoo!!!

During the 3 way they are both like licking my face and and
biting, the tall girl gives me a lovebite ON MY CHEEK!?

Never had that before!

Then I feel both their hands IN MY BOXERS, both massaging my
jock, IN THE CLUB, it’s crazy.

This goes on for a while with me doin some groping as well.

They talk some more in Italian to each other like they have
been doing quite a lot.

I push to leave but chode out on saying back to their hotel,
which I think was a BIG MISTAKE, I must have seemed like a
wuss.

Then all of a sudden they say they have to go to the
bathroom and I know what that means, I don’t see them again.

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So where did I go wrong?

Did I go into seduction stage too early (i.e. not in a
seduction location)?

Thank you for any advice you can give me,

Status

P.S I LOVE the free RSD seminar, it rocks and i listen to it
evrytime I go out.

THANKS RSD!

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Thanks for the compliments.

Loved the report. Sounds like you had a blast. I personally
love Tiger Tiger, in spite of the fact that it’s the cheesiest
club I’ve ever been in in my entire life.

Oh hell, I love it BECAUSE it’s the cheesiest club I’ve ever
been in in my entire life!

But hey man, you KNOW where you went wrong here. You said it
yourself several times within the report itself.

You failed to bring your BALLS with you to the club, and
choded out when it came time for the extraction.

The window of opportunity was there, man. You knew it, but
failed to pull the trigger. I don’t have to tell you this. You
know it in your heart.

Not bagging on you at all here. I’ve done this so many times
in the past it’s laughable. It all comes down to EGO
PROTECTION.

We’re sometimes so afraid that our ego could get hurt that
we fail to escalate, even when it’s OBVIOUSLY ON, like it
was here.

Trial and error, my friend. Don’t beat yourself up over this,
it’s all part of THE GAME… no failure, just FEEDBACK.

Play on buddy… I know you will.

And now, time for the obligatory plug. What are we talking
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game up to the level YOU WANT IT at. Our instructors are
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Nobody else provides this level of individualized attention and
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chicks you’ve dreamed about for your entire life sound?

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Haha, I kill myself sometimes. I’m funny.

Anyways, you owe it to yourself to at least check it out and
learn more. Visit our website to get the full scoop on our
Bootcamps:

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I’m sure you will love it. YOU WILL LOVE IT.

Let’s see what else I got in my bag o’ mail today:

*** QUESTION ***

Good day Jeffy,

First I’d like to express gratitude for your email service.
They serve as inspirational tools and reminders for me and I
have enjoyed the success they bring.

This immediately leads to my question. I have learned a lot
from the RSD principles. So much that I find myself dealing
with a welcome problem.

I’ve seen many tips that you have passed along that detail
how to approach girls and get attraction going. My question
for you is how does a life-long chode begin to cope with the
success following RSD teachings provide?

You see, for someone that never enjoyed abundant success with
women, following your advice can suddenly put you in a
position of being a bit overwhelmed.

Having hotties begin to open up to me is still so foriegn to
me that I secretly find myself doubting it’s actually
happening and I’m concerned that they will begin to sense
this. You know how wicked their perception of weakness can
be.

RSD definately improves your game, so do you have some advice
for the faithful out here to help us mentally deal with the
results?

Using RSD changes the reality and puts hotties in your pocket
but how do you convince your former chode psyche to shut the
hell up and accept it?

Brett

Oklahoma City.

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Great question.

You learn the techniques, and often there is a “lag-time”
where you’re getting success in spite of the fact that you’re
not completely congruent with the persona yet.

This goes back to the concept of IDENTITY.

Your identity and your behavior influence one another. In some
ways, it’s a case of “the chicken and the egg”… which comes
first? Looking back at my own experience, when I first started
this trip, I began thinking of myself as a “player” before I had
the actual skills.

In fact, my freshman year in the game was largely spent
re-engineering my identity. How?

It certainly wasn’t easy. I’ll tell you one thing, it didn’t
involve sitting in front of a mirror doing affirmations. Not by a
long shot. The closest I ever came to anything like that was
taping a small list of beliefs to the inside of the medicine
cabinet. It was printed with this:

1. I move through this world without apology.
2. I make no excuses for my desires as a man.
3. Women are a dime a dozen, I don’t need any particular one.
4. Rejection is a good thing, I learn something every time.
5. Behave as though these are true, even if your emotions mislead
you.

Great stuff, sure, but the fact of the matter is, these “notes”
just led me in the right direction. I could sit there at the
medicine cabinet and read those all day and it wouldn’t do a
damn thing. No, I had to get out in the field and start
PRACTICING making those statements reality.

I started going out to the clubs several times per week, with my
new persona firmly implanted in my head. Of course, at first I
wasn’t very congruent with it, but over time I began to take on
the characteristics of a real-life, bona fide player.

Like, I started going to the badass clubs that used to intimidate
me. I started wearing the threads of a player, I started ACTING
like one. Then, after I’d been doing all of this for a long time,
I realized that it was WHO I AM.

If you begin with the end in mind, and are dedicated, you too
can transform your identity from a limiting one to an empowering
one.

In other words: fake it ’till you make it.

You need to start DOING, and then you will BECOME.

Don’t sweat it, man, you’ll get there.

And now, I need to be getting there… to my favorite local
watering hole for dollar drink night. Yeah, yeah… I don’t
drink anymore, but it’s all about the nostalgia factor.

Thanks for checking in on us here at RSD, and I’ll see ya
next time. And to get more information about our Foundations
course, visit:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/foundations.asp

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS